• IBSshitposter@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    dawg you can be trans for funsies, gender can eat my entire ass. everyone is better off when we aren’t gender-policing every goddam thing

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    Ultimately it’s none of my business. It’s between the trans person and their doctor, as long as they’re following best practices and the plan of care is agreed to by the patient and the doctor, I’m good. I don’t pretend to know better than someone living that reality. I wish them well and hope their transition goes well and they can find happiness in their body.

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      …they can find happiness in their body.

      See I think that’s the most important part and you hit the nail on the head. I transitioned 20 years ago and it was a lot different then. Nowadays everyone has the freedom to just be themselves, and people are getting too hung up on labels and pronouns. If everyone just pursued their own happiness and comfort in their own body, while ignoring the expectations put upon them by social media and society, they’d be a lot happier.

      It’s like these younger folks feel like there’s a check list of things they need to do to “be trans”. My brother in Christ just be yourself, and if you wanna call yourself trans in the process then more power to you. There’s no rules to happiness beyond not hurting anyone else.

      Tl;Dr “An ye harm none, do what ye will.”

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      It’s between the trans person and their doctor

      A trans person can shoot dutasteride directly into their eyeball if they want or gurgle horse urine against the specific advice of a physician and it would still be fine.

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        I think the thrust of their point is it’s between the individual and their doctor if they want to pursue medical things. The state should not be prescribing what they can/can’t do in this domain and getting in the way of their relationship with their doctor. Much like the argument that keeping a pregnancy/aborting is between a pregnant individual and their doctor. It’s a shorthand way of putting it we all sort of get. Yes they should be able to do it because it’s their body but generally the whole thing involves a doctor one way or another.

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          I think the thrust of their point is it’s between the individual and their doctor if they want to pursue medical things.

          And my point is it isn’t.

          Saying, “It’s between an individual and their doctor.” implies there could be a time when a person wants to ingest something or do something to their body that affects nobody but them (vaccinations I still advocate the administration of at gunpoint) and they shouldn’t be allowed to because a doctor said no.

          Doctors are their to advise, but not at the level of the individual to consent.

          By all means keep antibiotics behind a key, but if a person wants to eat paint chips doctors should be there to monitor their blood for lead and explain why they maybe shouldn’t, not to stop them.

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            When did I say a doctor can override a patient? That’s not remotely the standard of care in the US. Calling that a red herring is generous.

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              When did I say a doctor can override a patient?

              “it’s between the individual and their doctor if they want to pursue medical things.”

              It isn’t. It’s between an individual and their damn self.

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                  Alright I can tell when a conversation isn’t productive anymore.

                  When you stop listening?

                  I explained very clearly why the implications of the position you took were harmful.

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      The DSM used to classify homosexuality as a mental illness. Are you saying it was until they changed it?

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        They have published new versions over the years. They’re on version 5 by now. Plenty of things have changed.

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          The argument is that you shouldn’t base your position of acceptance on whatever the DSM says because they’re demonstrably very fallible, but rather you should use your own arguments instead.

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            The DSM is fallible. Many of the diagnostic criteria will change in future versions of the DSM. In the future we are going to learn that some aspects of the current manuals are wrong, just as we have for previous ones.

            But the people who will find those errors and make those updates will be, and have been, researchers and mental health experts who work in the field and have relevant experience. There’s no way that I, as some rando on the internet will have anything insightful to say on the subject. If either of us come to a conclusion that contradicts the DSM, it’s far more likely to be we are mistaken in our uninformed opinions.

            Regardless, the DSM-5-tr is the manual that is CURRENTLY used by mental health professionals to diagnose mental disorders. My description of the DSM criteria is as accurate as is practical for a single sentence sarcastic comment in response to a meme.

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            It is possible to accept people, use preferred pronouns and names etc. while also being of the opinion of “technically you’re not trans but enby” or something. Some people just have a fetish for precisely defined taxonomies, don’t kink-shame.

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                I’m sorry how is clearly delineating a clade (in this case, “trans”) not crisp taxonomy.

                You might, for example, come across a random dog and say “That’s not a Rotweiler that’s a dog”: It might be another named breed, it might be an incomprehensibly mixed-up street pupper, point is it’s not a Rotweiler but still a dog.

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                  Ok, but even if we follow your dehumanising analogy, non-binary people are still trans

                  So claiming "“technically you’re not trans but enby” is never going to be “precisely defined taxonomy”, no matter how much you’d love for transphobes to have their “kink” of deliberately mislabelling people to exclude them from a category they factually belong to.

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    before i was officially out, the first person i told was my mechanic… and they brought it up. and you know what they did? they asked if i went by a different name and they changed it and called me that with the new pronouns

    basically what im saying is that if that complete stranger can do it anyone can so stop being a dick to trans people, transphobes

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    Man I wish I had time to worry about shit like this. Like get a fucking hobby if all you can think about is other people living their lives.

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    Imagine trying to fit the infinite variations of self into only 2 boxes. Be yourself, the world is fake.

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    One time a truscum told me “I can’t me Transphobic, I’m trans, you’re stupid” she was incorrect, and she was one of the biggest transphobes I ever met (she insulted many trans women claiming they “sound like men” and that they “weren’t even trying” what an absolute asshole she was SMH.

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    Kids sexuality, who they choose to fuck and how they want to look, just isn’t anyone else’s business, always has been a perfect signal later for broken toxic people, and now right wing bigots won’t shut up about it. Grow up. Yes I am telling an entire political party to grow up. It’s been an issue too long, if you really can’t stop your poisoned voter base and media followers to stop being this cringe, you just have to start over then. Disassociate with them. It’s over, this is such an annoying childish issue to be hearing over and over and I don’t even live in your country. Please for the love of God stop allowing wounded babies to politicise kids sexuality. It’s so tiring that none of you stop the fucking madness and approach normal political discussion when this happens. Just don’t engage. Say “no” to the bigot and engage another more grownup in debate instead.

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      Yes, e.g. if you have transitioned you should ideally feel less yo no dysphoria. Then again, I have very little life experience on that subject. I would guess that someone who actively does what they feel like should also feel less since they are not forced into something they do not like. And some base amount of dysphoria in life is “surely” normal.

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        You don’t even have to experience dysphoria before transitioning

        In my case, I never felt distress from my agab but have experienced euphoria. For info, I am trans NB, but still relatively early in transition.

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        Oh I see, trans here means like “not cis” rather than having transitioned from some assigned or assumed gender identity.

        I can certainly see how not experiencing dysphoria is rare for binary trans people, because the two gender roles are pretty heavily enforced in most societies.