As someone with a high sex drive, it’s not rational. It’s like hunger, or sleepiness. It’s a base biological need and the longer I go without sex the more irritable and depressed I get.
It’s not a need in the sense that I’ll die without it, but it’s a need in the sense that my mental health will deteriorate without it.
Oral is more intimacy focussed, at least as far as giving it is concerned. As the giver you also get immediate and obvious feedback that your partner is finding pleasure in what you are doing (Or that they ARENT enjoying it if you’re fucking it up)
I’m mostly sex repulsed but I find giving oral way more manageable than penetrative sex. Mostly I just don’t like being touched but yes like someone else said, knowing that you’re causing the pleasure for someone else is the appealing part of it. Especially if they’re vocal about it.
See, I feel like I’m the exact opposite. I don’t mind being touched nor penetrated (toys only, w4w). Oral however just doesn’t seem fun for me either way. I guess I’m just more comfortable with someone’s hand than someone’s head.
TBF, sex in general doesn’t give me any happy chemicals so it’s not something I seek out or ever get excited about.
As someone who is sex repulsed, I’m legitimately curious what about it appeals to you? I’d love to know from your perspective
Not OC but the idea of making someone feel good makes me feel good. It’s like double the dopamine for me.
I could totally see being grossed out by it when I think about it logically. In fact it is gross when I think about it logically.
Logic is fucking gross. Last I tried it it remind me that I am a meat sack of fat and blood ready to pop. I avoid it ever since
As someone with a high sex drive, it’s not rational. It’s like hunger, or sleepiness. It’s a base biological need and the longer I go without sex the more irritable and depressed I get.
It’s not a need in the sense that I’ll die without it, but it’s a need in the sense that my mental health will deteriorate without it.
Oral is more intimacy focussed, at least as far as giving it is concerned. As the giver you also get immediate and obvious feedback that your partner is finding pleasure in what you are doing (Or that they ARENT enjoying it if you’re fucking it up)
I’m mostly sex repulsed but I find giving oral way more manageable than penetrative sex. Mostly I just don’t like being touched but yes like someone else said, knowing that you’re causing the pleasure for someone else is the appealing part of it. Especially if they’re vocal about it.
See, I feel like I’m the exact opposite. I don’t mind being touched nor penetrated (toys only, w4w). Oral however just doesn’t seem fun for me either way. I guess I’m just more comfortable with someone’s hand than someone’s head.
TBF, sex in general doesn’t give me any happy chemicals so it’s not something I seek out or ever get excited about.