Listen up fuckers, cause none of this applies to anybody on this site specifically and I’m just bitching.

I don’t have to accomodate neurotypicals who say horseshit like “I don’t want to keep a tone tag reference sheet open to have a conversation though”, that has officially stopped being a me problem. Similarly, if your response to that is “Communication is a two-way street, so a communication issue is often also a two-way thing”, that doesn’t sound like I have to accomodate YOUR misunderstanding of MY words, however you have decided to read them. If you decide even in spite of tone tags that I’m being an asshole, frankly get fucked and go decide someone else’s emotional state for them. Hell, even if I didn’t use tone tags, I shouldn’t be required to fucking defend myself from your literal spurious accusations. I’ve had enough of your disingenuous assertions.

I’m pretty understanding about misreads, just ask me what I meant instead of fucking assuming the absolute worst in people all the time, and also do not go around expecting neurodiverse people to accomodate whatever YOU read into their words all the time. Your fucking problem. It’s not their job to sort out your preconceptions and accept whatever emotions you decide for them, which was the point of what I was saying anyway. Ableist shit.

This type of thing has become pretty traumatic over the course of like ten of exactly this type of bullshit, so I don’t have the will to cause problems and fight about it but I’m also not willing to constantly cede ground for free to neurotypical expectations.

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  • Egon [they/them]@hexbear.net
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    6 months ago

    Half-joking. It’s a bad tag because it defeats the purpose if tone tags, which is to provide clarity. Saying you’re half-joking does nothing. What are you joking about? What are you serious about? Am I meant to take this seriously? Am I meant to act on it? Are you saying something rude or something that you know is offensive and you feel the need to shield yourself? It’s a terrible tag made by people who don’t get it and they should all go to the gulag /hj