• threelonmusketeers@sh.itjust.works
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    6 months ago

    Would you prefer to have not survived? Not trying to be snarky; honest question, as I feel conflicted.

    Would you prefer it if someone else had lived a healthier life in your place?

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      6 months ago

      It’s tough to say. I never wish that somebody else would not survive, and I appreciate the utter heartache that parents and other family would feel at the loss of the child. However, I do expect that such children will suffer more than the average person as a direct result of being kept alive when born at such a low weight and believe that making that decision for them is cruel.

      I suppose that means that, at least in these extreme cases where the baby weighs less than three or four pounds, yes, it would be kinder to let the infant die rather than to condemn it to a life of health issues.

      Edit: I realize I didn’t answer your question directly. Yes, I would have been better off if I had not survived. I’m neutral as to whether or not a future baby would have replaced me.