So after the reddit meltdown I moved over here, and made an account on .world because it was the biggest. Turns out the owner seems intent on mingling with the Facebook intruder by not defederating, so I moved over to .ml.

That one seems to have a heavy bias in what instances it is federated with, so even my all feed is heavily curated by someone else.

Besides that they both have constant connectivity issues the last days so I am looking to move to somewhere smaller that meets these requirements:

• no federation with meta, ideally with a generally anti corporate stance
• little to no defederated instances otherwise, I like to block / subscribe on my own according to my interests, absolute degeneracy like NSFL instances or CSAM excluded of course.
• reliable connectivity, preferably something that remains online for more than the next month

Can someone recommend something that meets my needs? I tried looking around with the tools available to browse lemmy instances but I can’t check for all the requirements I have with the filters.