Is it via a partner? Is it a FWB? Other?

For me, I tried dating and found it incredibly frustrating and mentally exhausting and draining, so I went down the escort route. Also, I live with my parents, so I couldn’t find a way to make proper dating work.

I’m in the process of moving into my own house, and I’m planning to try and get some exercise done before I get back into the world of dating.

  • It's Maddie!@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    6·
    11 months ago

    For me it was with a longtime childhood friend that gradually became a FWB thing. We’re not romantically interested in each other, but it’s really nice to have a safe and trusted partner when we were first starting out and for casual sex now

    • flute@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
      3·
      11 months ago

      This is really wholesome!

      I also love the fact that (if I’ve read it correctly) you guys understand each others boundaries, which is super hot in its own right. Brownie points for the both of you!

  • Outset2568@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
    83·
    11 months ago

    Actually in the same boat as you. 31 here, haven’t done the deed yet and I’m seriously considering going down the escort route.

    My dating experiences have ranged from bad to terrible. Ladies here tend to be incredibly frigid.

    Here in the UK, prostitution is legal but many things commonly associated with the sex industry (brothels, pimping, kerb crawling, soliciting sex in a public place) are criminalised. But I still think I’d rather go to the Netherlands or Germany since they have fully regulated sex industries.

    • flute@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
      6·
      11 months ago

      Hey! I’m from the UK too!

      I went down escorting when I was 32 (34 now) only because I had some OK dates to some absolutely phenomenally bad ones. I’m slowly learning to be a bit more confident with my own judgement on the dating scene.

      All I will say about my experience of escorting in the UK is:

      • Go for independent ones if you want escorts who actually enjoy their job and don’t act like some weird sex robot.
      • Look at prices carefully - if the price is cheap, I would say heavily avoid at all costs.
      • As tempting as it is, avoid unprotected sex. At best, it’s not worth the stress and aggravation of getting yourself tested (twice). At worst, you put your own health on the line.
  • 🦋 Summer Barrymore 🦋@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
    5·
    11 months ago

    Idk if you want advice, so stop reading if you dont 😂 there’s nothing wrong with hiring an escort. Make sure you choose one that takes her business seriously bc those girls treat clients well. Good sign if she has a website. I think its important to “date nornal” too. Maybe you can meet girls to take to dinner to meet “regular women” while getting sex from an escort. this is just my 2 cents

    • Assdddffff@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
      5·
      11 months ago

      To add to the dating advice: try not to approach dating from the angle of “needing” to find a partner. While you should be putting your best self forward, you don’t want to try to win a girl over by acting like someone you’re not because you think she wants someone different than you. Your goal should be to meet someone who likes who you are and that you enjoy spending time with.

      So yes, get some exercise! Better yourself! Try to find things you enjoy doing that make you a better person! But don’t try to become someone different than you. You will meet people that aren’t into you. You will meet people that you aren’t into. That’s totally ok and normal. It’s part of the dating process to figure out whether you two click or if you should move on and find someone else.