• TranscendentalEmpire@lemm.ee
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    12 days ago

    No, it’s not socially acceptable. Yes, I wish it were.

    Like, does this mean you are afraid of other people you don’t know judging you, or that you or your friends find it socially unacceptable?

    Either way that seems to be more of an individual problem rather than a social one. I am physically affectionate with my friends and have never been confronted about it by a member of the public , not that I would really care if I were. People be dumb, I’m not going to let someone else’s projected homophobia dictate my friendship.

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      12 days ago

      That it would be viewed as awkward and unwelcome by the other participants. Consent is key, yo

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        12 days ago

        That’s a good view. You’d be surprised who is down for a hug, though.

        My friend group usually goes for the handshake hug. This led to things like when someone is having a hard time we hug it out.

        We also compliment each other a lot. It’s nice. Some of these guys didn’t get compliments until our group started doing it to each other. You can watch someone who doesn’t get a lot of compliments change their body language from closed off to confident just by letting them know you like their shirt or that their haircut looks great.

        Start easy with the handshake back pat. Easing into it can overcome some of the awkwardness that causes people to shy away from physical contact. Not everyone will be down for it, and you’re right that consent is key. Maybe it won’t work, but you’re not out anything by giving it a shot.