Hi sorry Ive never posted in here before. Idk if i need to fully explain my situation but I’m going to. Disability services is supposed to cook with me every week, but they;re down to two staff to serve the entire region so for a few weeks I was without staff to cook with me. SO I had to order out almost every day so I wasnt just cooking myself fucking pasta every night (which is also hard to do because of ND stuff because i have to transition to do that, ordering out is more accessible that way). My original plan for the month was to skip rent (which is 45% or so of my income, coming out to a little over 250 dollars) because you can SORTA get away with doing that since you pay directly to disability services and im actually already behind a few months. And there was no way i was going to be able to order out as much as I had to if I had to pay half of my income (well its a bit less than half because disability hasnt checked my income since i moved in so they dont know that ss has raised it a few times lol).

I didnt even totally realize this comm existed until a little bit ago and felt kinda uncomfortable asking comrades for money even when I did find out. But I was encouraged by a friend on here to use this if I need it and like, i think it might be a better strategy to ask for help on here rather than fall further behind on rent and possibly get in trouble especially since theres been talk of moving me to a group home which i really dont want. I have a staff that is like SPECIFICALLY for paying bills rn and he’s a bit strict and was a bit eyebrow raise when I told him I was skipping rent and like when he came back next week tried to say we need to pay rent again lol. And im scared theres something being unspoken.

(I also possibly have to replace my headset soon because its starting to get finicky but ill wait till im sure i have to to ask for help withj that because boy thats another thing i don’t think ill be able to afford).

edit: apparently i need to say dm for cashapp/paypal ect instead so i am editing out my cashapp name lol. so dm me for that!

tl;dr i need 250 for rent lol

    • LeylaLove [she/her, love/loves]@hexbear.net
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      I got you. I used to be a chef, so this isn’t just some random person offering you help, I had to keep cost and accessbility in mind for an entire restaurant’s worth of staff. I’d try to keep costs down, along as making it as easy as possible for you to make.

      I’d even focus on food prep so you wouldn’t be fucked on days that I’m not available. Because secret about restaurants, most stuff you eat was prepped at least a day or two ago. They certainly don’t do any sort of carb daily. Rice, pasta, potatoes, whatever you can think of. They do it 2-3 times a week. Especially if you’re neurodivergent and have a safety meal, meal prep is the absolute shit. Like you could realistically cook 2 times a week and be fine for all 7 days or the week. Taco Bell recombines the same shit over and over again for new menu items, why not do the same thing at home?

      An example of a meal prep that would last all week. You boil 1-2 pound(s) of pasta slightly below done on Sunday. Don’t worry about not being able to do it just right, just do it by the package instructions and subtract a minute. You rinse off your pasta and toss it in a bit of oil so it doesn’t stick to itself, boom you have perfectly cooked pasta after throwing it in the microwave for a minute or two. You make a base sauce on the same day, you’re already at the stove, what’s another pan mean? Canned tomatoes, whatever source of garlic you have, same thing with onion, and some salt and pepper. If you’re a drinker, a splash of whatever you’re drinking. You have a very generic sauce, but a great base for whatever you want to do in the microwave. Thinking Italian? Add some Italian seasoning, Parm, maybe some red pepper flake and you have a somewhat healthy and quick microwave meal. Wanna do Mexican? Add chili and cumin along with whatever protein you want the sauce to flavor, boom you have a quick Mexican dish in the microwave. Chinese? Add ginger, soy sauce and MSG if you have it and all of a sudden you have some fried noodles straight from the Chinese place.

      Sorry for the long rant, I just think you’d really benefit from learning some restaurant prep. You can have a great variety of food for 7 days with a can opener and an hour or two of time a week. Everywhere does the Taco Bell method. And I know it’s a lot to do back to back, but I’m the type of autistic who does better with momentum, one thing gives me the energy to do more until like 2-3 hours in, then I lose the desire to do it for a while. Whatever you need to make it manageable for you, I got you. This place at its core is about helping each other. I’m broke as shit, but I can offer education to help you if you fall in this spot again. There’s never any shame in posting here, everybody is great, but as someone who posts here a lot I know nobody likes posting on this comm. Someone here helped me get a remote job that pays way better than mine, so I truly hope I never have to post here again and I can start giving back to the people here. Best mutual aid ever if it actually pays off

      • autismdragon [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.netOP
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        7 days ago

        Yeah when I cook with staff I cook one meal for the rest of the week with one preplanned ordering out as a treat day a week so Im kinda used to prepping for the whole week already. Thank you for all this!

        • LeylaLove [she/her, love/loves]@hexbear.net
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          Perfect, I can send you some recipes/routines, see what you think of them. Personally, I have a really big problem with executive function. I have schizophrenia so I have very little energy because I’m stuck trying to function in a catatonic stage. Like I’m not going to pretend like I’m perfect, I’m probably just as fucked as you are as far as doing stuff for myself (no disrespect meant, I just understand how hard it can be to do stuff for yourself). But I have the type of autism where I can do stuff for other people like my life depends on it. I’ll start writing out some stuff right now. Are you vegan or have any sort of dietary restrictions?