I’ve only dated two people (I think I’m about to fuck this current situation up) but it seems like I don’t know how to handle it when the novelty of a new relationship somewhat calms down on my end and I’m dealing with someone who is ostensibly over attached and saying all of these wild things and love bombing me.

Things seemed to be going so well for us, but they suddenly became super physical when their lack of physicality was the exact reason I chose to date them in the first place, and that sort of took me aback :/

I’m posting in the nd forum because I suspect this is an example of not being able to deal with change (we’re on the same wavelength for a bit then I return to reality while they stay up in the clouds). It also takes up a loooooooot of energy. Shit suuuuuuuuuuuucks because I truly thought I had found the one :/

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    5 months ago

    sometimes you just notice they are not the right person for you after you get to know them much better and your horny has calmed down a bit.

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      5 months ago

      😂 sounds true

      But after each relationship where things go so well, I wonder if I’m taking a risk by not settling down ya know? Maybe something is better than nothing

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        5 months ago

        that looks like fomo. like how people want cuddles and spousal love when they are single, and to meet people and have fun when they arent.

        its awful but i dunno what to do about this one. grass is always greener and stuff.