And it has all kinds of implications and context and shit.
How the fuck am I supposed to tell what’s just people doing things at random and what’s a part of all-singing-all-dancing-shit-show the neurotypicals call “social norms”? Down with NTs.
Honestly while it’s really fucking annoying that refusal to participate could result in some silly neuronormo interpreting a completely innocuous action as an offense, and it can cut you off from social shit, I think it’s basically the only way. The same button never does the same thing twice. Screeching rn.
I feel like all social norms boil down to “Why do people do this?”
“Because.”
And NT people just go along with the norms that are forced on them, never questioning why things are the way they are. I always get hung up on the myriad possible meanings of everything that is said and done. For me, nothing has a set meaning and everything must be thoroughly analysed with the context, tone, events leading up to it, etc. I know NT people don’t think this way and just go through the motions but that’s how I instinctively approach social situations and it’s hard to just follow the unspoken NT rules, even when I know them.
I don’t even think NT people like doing most of the normal routine but they’re too compliant to rock the boat.
I think it’s MORE CONFUSING because a few make sense, but most do not. It’s not even consistent what ones make sense goddamnit, neurotypicals are such fuckers…
I had to disown most of my biological family over time because way too much chuddy and horrid shit was normalized to them and I never stopped asking questions or challenging those norms.