All of my IRL friendships are based around activities - we play games together, we volunteer together, etc. When someone moves away and we try to keep the friendship going, it always just sputters out after a few weeks or months. It just seems to devolve into small-talk / catch-ups that neither of us are really interested in (I don’t mind small-talk too much, but it can’t be 100% of any meaningful relationship).

So: What is the point of a long-distance friendship for two people who have no plans to live locally again? What am I missing?

EDIT: I have close conversations in person that are deep and meaningful, just very rarely over text. Maybe I ought to phone or video call once in a while…

  • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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    25 days ago

    My best friends are on the other side of the country. We met playing d&d over voice chat over the pandemic but got along so well we had to start having extra calls to just chat or else we wouldn’t be able to get around to playing.

    At this point I’ve seen them in person more often than my local pathfinder group with whom I also play over voice chat.

    But yeah I agree in general about text only friends

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      24 days ago

      That’s really cool! I wanted to start playing D&D online with the friend that prompted this question, but she doesn’t really have the time (or I’m not important enough to make time for, I guess) :/

      Kinda sucks, but that’s what happens sometimes