• Zerlyna@lemmy.worldM
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    1 month ago

    Maybe I should do that again. Bad weekend, I kind of picked a fight with my partner and it seems we have broken up. It’s our third major blowup in three years - well, my major blow up. But I’m not sure we were compatible either. And he blames my bipolar all the time.

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      1 month ago

      Well, when I was untreated I definitely made my ex-wife’s life worse. She called the it “The Jeckill and Hyde” and she wasn’t all that wrong.

      Are you properly medicated?

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          1 month ago

          I’m learning things from my journey. One is that a support network is very good. I’m lucky in that regard. OTOH, I’m slowly learning that even though desirable, it’s not on others to deal with my problems. If they do I’m grateful, but I must accept that my condition is mine. Also, I’ve become very self conscious about my mood changes, much smaller and quite manageable, and can often mitigate the effects.

          I had an alcohol problem, the old “self-medication thing”, and found SMART Recovery, a science based peer support organization. They help learn very practical emotional regulation and coping strategies, a sort of DIY cognitive behavioral toolkit. That has proved immensely useful.