Getting to know a meta more closely? Finally attending that local polyam meetup you’ve been eyeing for the last 2 years? Coming out to your family about your other partners?

It’s a new year and I thought it would be fun to share some goals we have and some things were looking forward to in 2025! Maybe some folks here have some experiences they can share with you about your goals or excitements for the year and we can all help each other continue to grow!

This is a perfect time for newbies or folks curious about polyamory to learn and possibly explore your own feelings around it, so feel free to chime in (respectfully!) if you’ve got questions about what someone is saying!

  • ProletarianDictator [none/use name]@hexbear.net
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    24 days ago

    I personally do kitchen table poly, where not only do I talk to my partners about my other partners, in most cases they’re all friends.

    I like this idea, but due to logistical constraints, this isnt possible for us right now. Only real potential barrier for me is the awkwardness of rejecting someone if my main partner wants to include someone I’m not attracted to. We are both bi, but def have different tastes, so I see that as likely.

    I think there’s a lot of value in confronting that jealousy and facing it head on.

    I agree. I’m not very jealous regardless. More just a result of neither of us wanting to accidentally induce jealousy. The “don’t ask don’t tell” esque policy is more just an emergent property of that rather than being a formal policy.

    I get to just be surrounded and out in the open as my truest self with all the people I love the most. It’s awesome.

    wholesome as fuck!

    Ultimately what you and your partner have in your agreement is up to you, but I’d always encourage folks to discuss and wade into a more kitchen table style.

    I think we will end up adopting this, but only when external circumstances change. Rn my main partner is living outside the country, so we keep our relationship alive and hookup with others on occasion, while making frequent visits to see each other.