I figured since their admin has asked them to stop participating over here it may be worthwhile to get a new discussion going that is primarily blahaj. I’m almost certain they’ll still be upvoting so keep that in mind as that may skew things. Worthwhile to check in from instances that have already defederated them. The previous thread definitely left a bad taste in my mouth but what do y’all think?

Old thread can be found here


EDIT: With regards to the post on new federation guidelines here: https://hexbear.net/post/352119

The current top comment is:

Every instance that has talked shit and got dogpiled should be thanking us for breathing some life into their dead and boring ass websites.

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    After speaking to one of their admins and seeing the change in the rules on hexbear, I’m happy enough with the outcome.

    Trans solidarity is incredibly important. It’s the reason this instance exists. I prioritise that.

    Hexbear (and Beehaw) is one of the only Lemmy instances that genuinely prioritise the protection of their gender diverse users, and honestly, if for nothing else, I believe it’s worth a bit of discomfort to find a way of staying connected.

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      Trans solidarity isn’t beneficial when they’re also brigading, harassing and abusing people, and disrupting threads constantly. They might be allies in terms of LGBTQ, but they are actively harmful in every other way.

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      Im very saddened to hear this. Sounds like staying in an abusive relationship because “They have good times too”. I hope you rethink this decision, or myself and atleast a few others will stop using this instance

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        All I can say though is the reason I am making the choice not to defederate now is because I believe that this is the best chance of developing a large positive trans userbase on the lemmyverse. At the moment, unlike the broader fediverse, lemmy and kbin are quite hostile or indifferent to trans folk. Despite hexbears bullshit, one thing they are, is strongly supportive of trans rights. And if the bullshit is kept to their own instance, then we can benefit from the voices of their trans users.

        If they can’t keep their bullshit under control, then we’ll cut them off.

        Why not give it a chance and see how it goes?

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          The users of hexbear just are very bitter that we didn’t adore their aggressive comments on the last post. I really just have a hard time seeing anything good coming of remaining federated.

          They just call everyone who doesn’t like their behavior a whiny liberal.

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            Keep in mind they have been in an echo chamber for three years. It’s not a surprise that there may be an adjustment period where they work on their culture and come out better.

            When I think of all the times that I’ve marveled at the person I’ve become (through working on myself), I’m really impressed that I got where I am. People change and grow and adapt and evolve. So do communities.

            I like that Blahaj wants to try to find solidarity. I hope for this to be the attitude on as many instances as possible.

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              Why should we have to suffer for their inability to socialize positively outside of their bubble?

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      And what’s your opinion on this admins take from their post on their recent rule change?

      It’s one of the highest upvoted comments on the thread.

      Or the highest upvoted comment in that thread that’s pretty blatant on how they feel about coming over to the rest of Lemmy?