I remember in the early internet days, we were restricted from most fun websites because my da was convinced we were downloading “spyware” from every website we went to.
Turns out the computer guy my da hired for business stuff was telling him the computer was slow and charging him out the ass for years and years. Some years ago, someone found something out about his shady business & he and his son disappeared literally overnight. House was just empty and no one knows what happened to them.
Man. Back when I was doing that work I took my principles very seriously. I never looked through people’s private files. If I happen to stumble on something accidentally, I never mentioned it.
This made me think about what a spaz I was when I was young.
I worked at a call center in my early 20s and I was hanging out with this beautiful redhead. I thought she was so far out of my league that I never stood a chance, so I never even thought about it. She was 100% my friend in my mind.
One day she told me that she needed her computer sped up. Told me there was nothing wrong with it, she just wanted to see if I could speed it up. We were tight enough at that point that I told her I would do it for free. We spent our lunches together, drove to the bank and cashed our checks together. We were good friends.
She said, “in my documents. There is a folder titled dance lessons. It’s full of naked pictures of me.”
I said, “Don’t you worry about it. I will not look at those photos. I will respect your privacy 100%.”
She replied, “Oh no I want you to look at them. I want you to see all of them and then tell me what you think.”
So you know what I did, I looked at them. I came back to work the next day with her computer. I sped it by disabling fading effects, and things like that, animations when minimizing and maximizing. Just a basic crap.
She looked at me and said, “So what did you think of my naughty pictures?“ I replied, “You are absolutely beautiful. Stunning. Gorgeous.”
That was that, it was time to clock in. Couple months later, a mutual friend of ours told me that she confided in him that she had been trying hard to move on me for months and was fully convinced that I was a homosexual.
By that point, she was already in a serious relationship with a manager who worked there. They ended up getting married and having a child, they are divorced now.
Jesus Christ, I was just terrible. I was oblivious to everything around me. I swear there’s something wrong with me.
Who knows what would have happened? All I know is that I am happy with the course that my life has taken, but it is still something I look back at and cringe at my younger self.
It’s also on her, because she didn’t tell you directly. You have to be blunt with some people. She even told your mutual friend directly; why did she have to play big enigma with you? It should be possible to be direct with potential partners. Imagine a relationship where nobody ever says what they mean and instead dances around the issue for the partner to guess what they want. That must be exhausting.
Im gray aro technically. But the last of my interest is gone due to this exact form of relationship trauma. I am happier though i feel like.
Good lord, my ex. Everything was a guessing game with her and she liked it that way because if things were calm and normal she wasn’t happy.
I’m so happy to be in a relationship with someone where we say what we mean and communicate our needs.
I feel this so much - why not just say what you want/need? It makes relationships so much easier. I will admit, it took a lot of fumbles for me to realize that, tho. 😅
It depends on how you’re raised I think, and then you gotta fuck up and figure it out when you get older.
It’s a disease in my family. I was talking with my uncle the other day and he had been upset with his wife. He didn’t tell her, he just went and slept on the couch. Done the whole cold shoulder thing.
I told him he needs to spit out whatever he’s feeling in that moment if he wants things to work. No sense sitting on it thinking the other person should know why you’re upset. Different things hit people different ways. Something that might make your blood boil might get a chuckle out of me.
You have to talk and express these things or it won’t work. I’m glad I know that now and am applying it in the relationship I’m in today.
Da
It’s a pretty common scottish word for driving assosciate
District attorney
Karma, karma is what happened.
Anon surviving that incident is a miracle. They definitely installed windows 10. I can tell based on the words and seeing many windows users in my time. I bet they had a decent W7 setup until it was ruined by the cause listed on their mutual divorce papers.
To be fair, I wouldn’t have a nice day if someone decided to install a significant update/upgrade/fork for an OS on the family machine without prior notice, either…
Nowhere near corporal punishment levels, but most certainly “clean uninstall your programs daily” levels. Would still make a backup of any saved games/projects, I’m not a monster…
TBF windows has a bad habit of installing updates without your expecting it. I’ve had it shut down on me right when I’m in the middle of something because I probably missed a “we’re gonna update do you want it now/later?” OS popup, and it defaulted to “now”.
But given Anon knew what Win 10 is and the father obviously did not, my guess is that the father clicked on the ‘upgrade now!’ panel Microsoft used to pester Win 7 and Win 8 users with.
IIRC the pop up even did scummy bullshit like continuing with the update if you closed the popup by clicking the cross in the top right of the window, you had to actually click the cancel button.
Aaah, good point, I forgot they started with that spammy shit early on…
Edit: point still stands, don’t beat your kids. Unless they’re coming at you with murderous intent, or something, I guess…
The post was made in 2020. I think it’s likely that this was a PC that already ran Windows 10, which probably auto-updated itself as they love to do
That shit is what made me start considering Linux more seriously
I was mid-gaming with friends over Skype when my Win7 machine just shut itself down, and booted back as Win10. I’m not sure anyone’s at fault here. (Well, for the update, anyway)
