This is kind of a follow up question to this post: How important is flirting within the dating scene?

I have never in my life flirted with anyone. Seeing how I’m still single I figure I might want to change strategies. So what is the best way to show someone you’re romantically (or sexually) interested in them?

And if you can, please include examples.

Note: I am a guy, straight.

  • untorquer@lemmy.world
    11·
    4 days ago

    Speaking from US context, and referencing your other post.

    “Hey do you want to go on a coffee date?”

    There’s little words or statements that can act as indicators which are direct/specific yet not pushy. You need to take the risk and be at least a little direct. You also need to be able to receive and handle rejection well.

    Social setting means a place you are both at voluntarily and not as a course of daily needs such as a party, concert, book club, barbeque, club, etc. Anything not income/job-related for either party. Not the grocery store, not the bus, not the DMV.

    Reading signs of interest in you:

    • Someone stays physically near you (e.g. within arms reach) for the majority of the night at a social gathering.
    • someone keeps focusing on you over multiple gatherings
    • Someone is electing to talk specifically to you significantly more than to other people in a social setting.
    • not a strong an indicator: They’re smiling, making lots if eye contact, etc…
    • Touch is a pretty uncommon but big indicator when paired with the above. (Hugs, sitting against you, etc.)

    These are signs, not invitations. You still need to ask about their intentions, and express yours in some way. Always form enthusiastic consent. If they’re not clearly enthusiastic then either ask their intentions very directly or move on.

    I am not providing advice on sex at all here, too complicated and situational especially around consent.

    e: formatting