We all have or had have one… whose yours?

  • Underfreyja@lemmy.ca
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    23 hours ago

    My ex with which I had kids. We’re co-parenting but separated. We’re best friends. We separated in good terms and support each othet through everything.

    • ickplant@lemmy.world
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      17 hours ago

      This is me and my ex. We are very close, and he and my husband go out for a drink sometimes. No regrets!

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        21 hours ago

        Well the first thing was that way before we decided to have kids we both agreed that if we ever had kids then separated we would not have them live the chaos and woes that our own parents made us go through when they got separated and divorced. Our utopia was somehow co-owning a triplex and us having our own apartment and the kids being in the third unit so that we would be the one to switch every weeks but obviously that didn’t happen because we’re not rich 😅

        But yeah, there’s a deep mutual respect between us and there’s obviously some kind of love but yeah, we make it work. It’s not always easy especially when we have relationships outside of our parenting relationship but with communication and boundaries it’s doable.

        So yeah, I guess communication and having the same goals was the key to making this work.

        • CheeseToastie@lazysoci.alOPM
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          21 hours ago

          You’ve put a lot of work into that, both before you had kids and after. You’ve really worked hard to be a good mom for them which is great. I agree mutual respect is key, as are boundaries and communication. Your hard work really has paid off!