• smollittlefrog@lemdro.id
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    10 months ago

    would you be okay with me telling you everything that needs to be done, and you do it all? No?

    They don’t want to do 100% and that means they aren’t doing 50%? what?

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      10 months ago

      Did you read the post?

      “50% of the work is in figuring out what to do, the mental load”

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        10 months ago

        What do you think happens if the woman doesn’t do the dishes and doesn’t wash the clothes?

        The man will start eating off the bare table and walk around naked?

        The man will recognize the issue when it becomes one.

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          10 months ago

          I think this is straying from the point frog. The issue is not “the man can wash clothes”, it’s “the woman often owns the problem of keeping the clothes clean and in the right spot”. Men tend to “help” but don’t think about the constant labor of keeping the house clean. Maybe the other way to think about it is: If one day the woman silently stopped cleaning and all the clothes end up dirty, would the man just take it in stride? I think not, I think there would be a silent argument.