Welcome to the Melbourne Community Daily Discussion Thread.

  • Rusty Raven @aussie.zoneM
    18·
    1 year ago

    I am digged out. One garden bed has been filled, and the base of where the second one is going has been filled too. There is still a bit of soil I need to bring around in the morning before the next load is delivered, but I’m done for the day. Shower, dinner and collapse on the couch is the plan for the evening.

  • bull⚡@aussie.zoneEnglish
    14·
    1 year ago

    Just between us, I have been killing it at work since I got back from holiday. I haven’t overdone it or underdone it, I’ve just done what I needed to do and kept what I believe to be a good balance. This feels like how this role should be performed and I’m feeling like I’m providing value.

    I’ve provided some great input in areas both within my specialisation and outside of it, seeding ideas and generating high level technical discussions. I’ve collaborated with internal and external stakeholders. Progressed activities and provided valuable updates to the team on current and upcoming technologies and solutions.

    Now I just need to bring that kind of energy to my personal life… which I’ve started on by getting my apartment in order. Took the cardboard box pile down to recycling today and just gave my air fryer a deep clean so I can use that again without it making my apartment smell like old grease.

    I know what I should do now but it’s a matter of getting up and doing it. I should go for a walk or something. Go Go Gadget lifestyle changes to promote better mental health!

  • Getawombatupya@aussie.zone
    11·
    1 year ago

    My old lady (mum) has become a cooker. She sent me silver bullion for my birthday emblazoned with " the currency after the reset", this has been building for years but holy fuck.

    Has anyone else had this? What are you doing/who are you talking to?

    • SituationCake@aussie.zone
      4·
      1 year ago

      I wish I had advice to give, but I don’t. I do however have sympathy. Same thing happened to me during covid. We are now non contact (there were other reasons too, but this was a big one). For context I studied and work in STEM, so I was essentially the enemy and there was no way forward from that. Good luck. It’s horrid.

    • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
      4·
      1 year ago

      I’m so sorry. I suggest you treat this like your mother has joined a cult. learn how to speak to cult members, the book “Combatting Cult Mind Control” is very helpful.

  • Taleya@aussie.zone
    11·
    1 year ago

    unexpected giggle of the day: Boss entered a bunch of peninsula sites into the worksheet. Cut and pasted most of them. Didn’t realise he’d missed the second N

    yes I am a four year old.

  • bull⚡@aussie.zoneEnglish
    10·
    1 year ago

    Today’s coffee. I think I need to just buy a bunch of milk and practice my milk/foam technique but honestly, it doesn’t need to be pretty to be delicious and this very much was that. As good as or better than the cafes around here.

  • just_kitten@aussie.zone
    9·
    1 year ago

    You know how when you feel physically sick and the meds or the hot drink kicks in and you feel momentarily relieved? That’s me right now and getting the odd text from a friend and having that moment of connection and safety. Can feel the mind and heart lightening for a second like nurofen for the soul.

    I wish this kind of ill feeling was better supported… get a prescription and time off for promoting healthy social connection. Whatever it is I think my next job as an employee will need more of that, either in terms of more time outside of work to foster that or better connections in the workplace.

    • jaybb3rw0cky@aussie.zone
      4·
      1 year ago

      I wish this kind of ill feeling was better supported

      I do wonder whether we’ll get to that point. I hope we do. And I wonder whether we’ll see advancements enough where we can point to something and say “see, this is what’s wrong with me right now”. Having something like a sprained ankle or infection is easy - they’re visible signs of why we’re not physically able to do something. But if there was like a… I don’t know… some kind of test that showed a serotonin imbalance (for example), you know?

      • just_kitten@aussie.zone
        3·
        1 year ago

        Yeah, exactly. Of course, mental health is far more nebulous and complex, and cause and effect interactions are not going to be as predictable as with physical ailments. But there is still scope for determining an evidence based, systematic approach to recognising and supporting people’s needs. There ARE things that demonstrably help, that might be more apparent from the outside - and it sucks that the onus is very much on the sufferer to carve out solutions and explain everything to others.

        • jaybb3rw0cky@aussie.zone
          3·
          1 year ago

          It would be so much easier if it was just simple accepted that this happens… that’s the one thing that I hold out for is that we’ll eventually get to a point in our culture where we no longer actually have to explain ourselves. Thankfully we’re moving but it’s at a remarkably slow rate, at least slow enough that it feels at times to have stagnated somehow backwards.

          • just_kitten@aussie.zone
            4·
            1 year ago

            It feels like perhaps in pre industrial societies this was more inherently accepted even if poorly understood and often misattributed/mistreated with religious or spiritual interpretations. But if your heart hurt or you felt a dark cloud over your life at least people kind of accepted and knew this was a thing and that you needed some kind of care (even if it involved witchcraft) rather than expecting you to chin up all the time and that it was all a figment of your imagination…

  • Rusty Raven @aussie.zoneM
    9·
    1 year ago

    Fortunately I did not join the no sleep gang last night (the joys of being at the start of a break from work!) so I’m nicely rested for my day of digging. I have 3 tons of soil to move (which sounds more dramatic than 2m for some reason) so should burn off some of the excess calories from last night’s pizza indiscretion.

  • Alamutjones@aussie.zone
    9·
    1 year ago

    Portuguese custard tarts at the work caf today.

    This must be compensation for sitting opposite The Noisiest Oblivious Bitch In The World all morning

  • oztrin@aussie.zoneEnglish
    9·
    1 year ago

    Voted earlier this afternoon. Took longer to find a park than to actually do the deed.

    • oztrin@aussie.zoneEnglish
      7·
      1 year ago

      Only problem I had with a spay was Topie: she suddenly became Little Climbing Bastard.
      And having had a cat go on heat before we could get her fixed - you don’t want that.

      • just_kitten@aussie.zone
        9·
        1 year ago

        Cats in heat are an absolute nightmare. Having handled a cat who was spayed but behaved like she was in heat anyway a couple of times… aaaaaaaaaaa.

        • Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone
          6·
          1 year ago

          Yes I’ve had quite a few instances of Gibson in heat and holy shit is it annoying! She acts so different too. Very snuggly and loving. Wish she was like that normally lol

          • just_kitten@aussie.zone
            1·
            1 year ago

            Dear lord ,I’m surprised you didn’t spay her earlier - yeah it’s a real double edged sword when they are SUPER cuddly, but then the yowling, my god the yowling and the spraying - it would’ve been unbearable.

    • Eagle@aussie.zone
      6·
      1 year ago

      Had male and female siblings done last year at 6 months old. Male had just started to turn into slightly stinky male cat and was giving his sister a bit of a hard time. They both did just fine, charmed the pants off everyone in the vet clinic. Declined the cone of shame, was prepared to cut socks into bodysuits if needed. Was told to keep them quiet and confined for at least a week, but a moth didn’t get the memo and they were both climbing from the pendant light the next morning to get to the moth. The change in boy cat was quick, and he turned back into a sweet heart. We have another kitten in the house now who is just hitting the 5 month mark, and I’ll book her in as soon as my vet allows.

    • Catfish@lemm.ee
      6·
      1 year ago

      The only issue I’ve ever had with a spayed cat was a No belly snorgles sensitive scar. Be vigilant about your cone/padded ring/onesie while stitches are in. It’s a super common procedure. 👍🏻

      • Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone
        4·
        1 year ago

        Thank you for responding ❤️ I’m going to get a baby onesie and cut it out for her I think. She would utterly hate the cone of shame lol

    • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
      4·
      1 year ago

      All of my kitties (and dogs) over the years have handled it really well.

      it’s a really common procedure I wouldn’t be worried.

    • Taleya@aussie.zone
      1·
      1 year ago

      Got all three of ours done at once. We were prepared for dopey, possibly pained kitties.

      We got back happy spazzmonkeys who apart from some stitches didn’t show any evidence whatsoever they’d been de-narded (and they definitely have been given two females, one male and no further kittens in the decade that followed)

  • TinyBreak@aussie.zone
    8·
    1 year ago

    New cars going well. I dont love all the automation and safety stuff though. The lane departure system is really annoying when your swerving to avoid potholes and the car has the nerve to complain that your trying to protect it. But beyond that fuel economy is better than expected and its a lot more comfortable when 3 of us have to go somewhere. And Carplay, maaaan carplay is soo good!

      • TinyBreak@aussie.zone
        3·
        1 year ago

        Kia Sportage to replace the Mazda 6 Diesel, which I have to say, is the worst car in the world. Edit: The mazda, not the Kia. Kia is great so far.

        • jaybb3rw0cky@aussie.zone
          2·
          1 year ago

          Yeah I remember the trouble you had with the Mazda - glad to hear the Sportage is doing good for you guys! And yeah, how funny is it to upgrade to a car that has things like Apply Play? Like, holy shit, my car has APPS now!

          • TinyBreak@aussie.zone
            2·
            1 year ago

            I mean, to be able to use maps is just amazing. And that it wont go out of date like a car with built in maps is just amazing.

    • just_kitten@aussie.zone
      3·
      1 year ago

      I never use lane assist, it’s a pain. But yeah after coming from an old car relying a mounted phone, using carplay/android auto was a whole new world.

    • Llabyrinthine@aussie.zone
      3·
      1 year ago

      I hired a car recently that had that. Great fuel economy, but that lane thingy, pushed me out of the lane on more than one occasion. Very frustrating.

    • Duenan@aussie.zone
      1·
      1 year ago

      I was upset when my boss left as well as we had worked closely together for a good number of years.

      I know I was angry at the time when some meetings took place and basically dismissed her and a few days later I cried when one of my co workers asked what was going on and I couldn’t help it.

      We’re you close to your boss or had a good working relationship? It’s not I dial if you formed some sort of bond over time.

      • fullkitwanker@aussie.zone
        2·
        1 year ago

        We have a great working relationship, and we’ve been working together for hardly half a year now. I think I’m not angry, as I think I know why she’s leaving, and good for her if that’s the case, but I’m so disappointed that two of my *closest *colleagues are leaving/left :(

    • Llabyrinthine@aussie.zone
      1·
      1 year ago

      I was upset when my old boss finished up. I mean I knew it was coming and it wasn’t like we worked together day in day out. In fact I rotated back and forth between teams. For me it was comfort of having someone there that I trusted.

      Edit: Ah, my bad. I just read yesterday’s reply. Being blindsided can take a while to get over.

      • fullkitwanker@aussie.zone
        2·
        1 year ago

        It literally came out of nowhere! Mine’s a small team, first a senior left, and she got replaced with another one and now my boss is going. I think I miss the senior in my team as she really used to look after and help me (given i’m new to the industry. she took me under her wings) but her replacement isn’t the same as her, which is ok but this sucks…

        • Llabyrinthine@aussie.zone
          1·
          1 year ago

          Oh, I totally get it. My respect/affection for my boss is because they were just someone who seemed to have me pegged from the get go and without my even noticing, just let me work where I was strongest. To be trusted in certain scenarios is something I value, but I guess I never realised how deeply it mattered and how much it matters to be seen without it needing to be verbalised.

          I think it’s an approach a lot more places could/should adopt. Cannot tell you how much I loathe, loathe, loathe reviews. They can get in a bin. I think employees would do so much better if they’re told on the spot things that need to change, be addressed or fixed instead.

          Such is life. I’m glad I was honest and let them know how I felt. I hope that it made them feel valued and maybe somewhat validated in the end. They’re onto bigger pastures, but I still miss them.

          • fullkitwanker@aussie.zone
            2·
            1 year ago

            Oh, I totally get it. My respect/affection for my boss is because they were just someone who seemed to have me pegged from the get go and without my even noticing, just let me work where I was strongest. To be trusted in certain scenarios is something I value, but I guess I never realised how deeply it mattered and how much it matters to be seen without it needing to be verbalised.

            Yes! Same! Even though I’m fresh out of uni, she has respect for me and my work and gives me a lot of time and space to do my thing. And she’s genuinely just a very good person as well.