• bane_killgrind@lemmy.ml
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    1 year ago

    It is fucking simple.

    If this is insurmountable you are a lost cause unless you go get therapy.

    Figure out how to not impress this attitude on your children. If you can’t, don’t have children.

    Simple.

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        1 year ago

        Nobody, I usually fast until noon.

        These are problems that are solved long term, and they are simple to fix. Maybe not for yourself, but the next generation needs a sustainable paradigm to live with.

        Plan your meals with your doctor, if medication is causing it. Make sure you know if there’s alternate medication and find out if those side effects are more or less palatable than weight gain.

        Reduce your reliance on work that costs you your personal health. Start giving less until you have enough for yourself. Don’t allow work to get in the way of your life on anything but a fixed temporary basis.

        Sure, these things are difficult to do if you don’t have the habit, but they are simple. It’s less difficult to teach your children to internalise these things.

        It’s not about you. It’s about the society around you. Push the values you want your kids to grow up with.

        This defeatist stuff about how you were taught it when you were young therefore you can’t be fixed has such a blazingly simple solution.

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      1 year ago

      hey man, people have struggles. just because you don’t have those struggles, and i don’t have those struggles, doesn’t mean they’re not valid struggles for the people who do have them. a bit of understanding can go a long way. or as one of my favorite musicians once said, “a little goddamn compassion never hurt a motherfucker.”

      and regardless of my personal opinion on having kids, i don’t see what it has to do with this conversation.

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      1 year ago

      Lazy fatsos are downvoting this. As my psychiatrist bluntly said to me — it’s not Seroquel that’s stuffing your face with potato chips.

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        1 year ago

        It’s not personal choice. Create the environment where, it’s odd that highly processed foods are the default snack. Create the environment where exercising and listening to your body is expected.

        I’m saying extremely privileged things, there are people without access to healthy foods. This doesn’t get rid of everyone else’s responsibility to vote in elections and vote with their dollars.

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          1 year ago

          it’s not about healthy foods. It’s never been about healthy foods. It’s always been about not stuffing your face. It’s always been about mostly healthy most of the time. Which you can only really do if you cook for yourself.

          Actually not serving home cooked meals to your children is child abuse, also.

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            1 year ago

            Yeah, if sugary breakfast cereals weren’t heavily marketed to families and fast foods and high fructose corn syrups weren’t heavily subsidized food items I might agree with you.

            Right now it’s financially less optimal to eat right. That doesn’t mean it’s too hard to do, you just have to think about it if you can afford it.