• TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    Homie I work in mental health and recognizing a trigger is not a force of systemic oppression, it’s a courtesy. Pretending everything is hunky dory and no one has differing needs or experiences is the “i dont see color” equivalent of gender. why would cis women even have that trigger??

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      1 year ago

      try talking to some ciswomen and find out if misgendering hurts. spoiler - it does.

      edit - fwiw, i keep hearing that lemmy is friendlier than reddit. this doesn’t align with my experience so far, it’s the same hateful shit as always.

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        I’m not saying it doesnt, even in my original post I said they aren’t “AS” hurt. Why not try giving a “sir” to 100 trans women and 100 cis women and see how the reactions differ? The way I understand it, you’re saying there wont be any difference in reaction. That’s naive. It’s a trigger! Just like how I can get uncomfortable when someone talks about s.assault but it isn’t a trigger for me. If I’m in a group session with people recovering from trauma, I’m going to be very careful talking about SA but if I’m with colleagues I might speak more directly.