Godamn. I was at a party last night for the first time in awhile, sorta contemplating existence and stuff and was trying to figure out how people meet each other romantically “in the wild”
I feel like I’m a pretty easy guy to talk to at parties (usually end up just shooting the shit with some person I don’t know too well) and end up in some random lil group where we’re all doing our own thing (idk if that makes sense). But then I think to myself, that has been the cycle of my entire life and is probably why I haven’t branched out of my social group at all. It also doesn’t help that most people at parties are usually intoxicated and their “self” at a party basically disappears the next morning, ya know?
Would breaking out of this cycle be considered coming out of my comfort zone? It’s so hard for me to comprehend because anything else is a different world to me, so I’m starting to believe that’s what people say when they suggest some ND people are very routine-oriented.
I’m very extroverted and I used to drink excessively in party environments because I’m a social butterfly, and outgoing.
When I quit drinking over a year ago, I thought it was gonna be hard to spread my extroverted wings to party environments etc. Was it an adjustment? Yes.
But I’m glad I did that because I found that, yes I do love some fun night life and genuinely enjoy music and dancing. But also that these environments where others are drinking and expect you to drink (sometimes excessively) are not where you’re going to find the best people at in general. You might get lucky sometimes but for the most part in my experience it’s all apart of the party.
Your best bet is to flex your extroverted muscle in other environments as well that might suit you for example if you love art, go to art events. If you love live music go to local music events or music festivals.
I went back to school for music and it’s been the greatest decision I ever made because it’s brought me into a whole new world I was too afraid to attempt before.