Except every rabidly homophobic male I ever met irl really did come out after they were involuntarily outed. Tbf I live in a deeply conflicted, fundamentalist religious area.
Really, every single one? Wow. Must be something in the water (insert gay frogs joke).
Been a minute but years ago I watched a REALLY good youtube on this phenomenon. Part of it is very much sample bias. One bigot being revealed as “closet gay” becomes all bigots.
But the reality is that: Sexuality is a spectrum. It is pretty rare for someone to be all gay or all straight or whatever. Its why there are like two men alive who wouldn’t let Ryan Reynolds stick it in them but Jon Hamm is a lot more YMMV.
And it kind of gets summed up by the hilarious SVU meme of the suspect (?) saying “I am not gay. Sometimes I have sex with women and sometimes I have sex with men” and Ice T saying “That makes you gay” as a one liner.
If you’ve grown up and had it forced into your skull that gay is evil and to think unsexy thoughts and so forth, you just say “Shit, I am gay”. Rather than, the reality, of “I am mostly heterosexual but I am a bit bicurous” or “I generally prefer other women but I am not opposed to dating a guy” and so forth.
Except every rabidly homophobic male I ever met irl really did come out after they were involuntarily outed. Tbf I live in a deeply conflicted, fundamentalist religious area.
Really, every single one? Wow. Must be something in the water (insert gay frogs joke).
Been a minute but years ago I watched a REALLY good youtube on this phenomenon. Part of it is very much sample bias. One bigot being revealed as “closet gay” becomes all bigots.
But the reality is that: Sexuality is a spectrum. It is pretty rare for someone to be all gay or all straight or whatever. Its why there are like two men alive who wouldn’t let Ryan Reynolds stick it in them but Jon Hamm is a lot more YMMV.
And it kind of gets summed up by the hilarious SVU meme of the suspect (?) saying “I am not gay. Sometimes I have sex with women and sometimes I have sex with men” and Ice T saying “That makes you gay” as a one liner.
If you’ve grown up and had it forced into your skull that gay is evil and to think unsexy thoughts and so forth, you just say “Shit, I am gay”. Rather than, the reality, of “I am mostly heterosexual but I am a bit bicurous” or “I generally prefer other women but I am not opposed to dating a guy” and so forth.
Yeah, every single one.
Dude my buddy in college used to sport-fuck “straight” redneck boys, and I can confirm that this shit you describe literally never happens.