I know, two posts in one community in the span of 24 hours is a lot, perhaps irritating but I have a lot of problems.

You may not have seen my last post, but I have severe OCD and Depression.

I have trouble not touching people. Whether it’s messing around with my brothers or just being touchy. I’ve had two people in the span of two days tell me to stop touching them and it’s increasingly awkward and embarrassing. Ironically I myself hate being touched by anything or anyone and have haphephobia.

I need to stop fucking touching people. Does anybody else do this or know any ways to prevent it?

Again, I’m really sorry for posting twice in one day, it’s rather odd.

  • vselennaya [he/him]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
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    1 year ago

    Thank you so much, comrade!

    I would absolutely love to come up with an action plan together, that’d be wonderful!

    I’d say it’s also intensity of feeling for me as well. If my brother messes around with me, even if it starts out in word fights I’m usually the one to escalate it into physicality. I’m young and don’t have many friends outside my family so I don’t frequently have conversations like the one you exemplified, but yesterday I was “fighting” with my brother and I guess he thought the interaction was over but I continued to agitate him by touching him I guess. I pinched his arm and he got irritated and told me “Stop touching me, and get out.” I felt embarrassed and did so.

    And, oh my lord I did the exact same thing as a child. When I was maybe 7–9 I hated being touched by other kids, even by my friends. I fell down at recess A LOT. I vividly remember as a child at parent conferences my mother would be talking to the teacher and I’d be next to her and she’d put her arm on my shoulder (you know, how parents do.) and It’d make me want to crawl out of my skin so I’d inch away quietly. As I grew up I still didn’t like being touched, but started touching people slowly. like hugging my family or patting my brother on the back, yet flinch and walk away when they try to do the same to me.

    I would absolutely be so happy to make a “strategy” I guess, and learn why this happens, I was so happy that someone related to this!

    • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
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      1 year ago

      It sounds like we both overreacted to being forced to let other people touch us and somehow got “TOUCH EVERYONE” as the lesson 😂🤦

      I’m going to have to do some thinking, because I don’t have any ideas for what to do about it. Having some idea about why we do it seems like a good first step to stopping, though, so I feel like we’re on a good path!