I feel this deep in my bones. Lately I’m watching conditions deteriorate all around me and wondering what rock bottom is going to look like. We’re heading there fast and no one with any power to slow the descent gives a single fuck. It’s depressing as hell.

That’s not true. I care!

oh I give a shit but it does give me a feeling of helplessness.

It was great for a while, lifted billions out of poverty, gave us cures to diseases, air conditioning, internet, etc. But I definitely feel like we need to rethink it now. We need to protect the institutions that allow for innovation, entrepreneurialism, and capitalism, yes, because innovation is essential. But we also need to figure out how to help the tens of millions of people capitalism is leaving in the dust. Idk how to do that though.

Man Bob sounds like a real piece of work. Good for you, I hope you find a place that can utilize and appreciate (in the form of payment) your talents and commitment to quality of work. Best of luck internet stranger!!

Shitty for them to do that to you. Would it impact your next job or your wallet so much that you can’t just tell them to fuck off and just walk away?

Do you feel like going back into the dating pool now?

I say this because I broke up with my partner one month ago, dating since 2018, and I feel that after 4 months my healing process will still not be finished. Do you have any friends around, maybe old acquaintances you can have a drink with? I don’t work from home, so my coworkers (who I surprisingly adore) have been instrumental in getting me back to life. Not dating yet, but at least being social. They’ve been planning events, activities and such, which isn’t uncommon for them, but when I was with my partner we would never go to these things.

Don’t take this as advice as I’m 100% not suitable to give it, take it more as support. I’ve also been seeing a therapist (I had a lot of issues that led to the downfall of the relationship), if that’s an option for you I would recommend it.

I feel you, man.

I’m 29 and in your same exact situation. I’m constantly reminded that I’m alone and the world isn’t made for single men. The harder I try the stronger the depression hits back since all my efforts are meaningless. And each time I talk to someone about it I just get the most cliche responses.

I’ve just completely given up on love and accepted that I’ll be alone the rest of my life. Since it looks like it won’t be better, at least I don’t want it to be worse…

I understand the feeling. I’m sure you have lots to offer even if you don’t know about it yet ;)

I agree with Akasazh. I met my first partner at 24 and it lasted 7 years before we realized it would be better to split. It took me a long time (4 years) to find someone else, at age 36. Age doesn’t matter: people find love even past 70! (my grandma!)

This channel offered me good advices and helped me a lot. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClHVl2N3jPEbkNJVx-ItQIQ It’s much smarter than the usual youtube dating advices.

I was like you at that age, it stinks to feel unlovable, it’s the loneliest feeling ever.

That said I quit my job, went back to uni and finished something i should have long time ago. In that process I met my current wife, at 37.

So never give up hope. Instead of investing time in others, try learning to love yourself a bit more. If you don’t approach every woman as a potential mate but just as a person it gets better, too.

I know it’s easy to say from where I am right now, but best of luck and much strenght, bro!

That’s really tough. I’m sorry you feel like you have no one to talk to, especially when you’re considering such tough decisions. If it’s worth anything: it is my opinion that at some point it’s ok to be “selfish” and consider the things that will make you a happier, healthier person in the long run so that you can then share this “better person” with someone who deserves it. Take a break, assess, regroup and start over. You got this!!

I’m sorry you have to deal with that. I hate dealing with people enough as a man. I can’t imagine how frustrating it must be to deal with all the bullshit you are stuck with, having your opinions and experiences dismissed, etc. I hope things improve for you (and all women), but it looks like it’ll get worse before it (hopefully) gets better.

I’m not a woman, but I am a minority living in a racist part of the USA, and I kinda know what you’re talking about. It’s really hard. I sometimes feel crazy because people don’t believe me.

I constantly have to play this game of, “are they being rude, do they not like me, or are they being racist?” I feel gaslighted all the time. I feel lesser and it’s tiring having to be who I am. Even people who think they are being kind are assholes. Telling me that I’m “not like the others” is such an insult to my people. “The others” are my friends and family. They are not “others” they are people to me.

I am sorry you are going through this. Your voice matters and is valid

Edit: Sorry for attaching my venting to yours. Pretty selfish of me now looking back

I think a lot of people feel lost after university, I know I did. Also very few people I know got to their careers using a neat path, a lot of career paths look like chaos. I also went down an unconventional, difficult path after university, as nothing else seemed to fit. I think you just have to do what is best for you and know it’ll work out in the end.

Is that even a typo really?

Totally get this