Now that I’ve caught you with the clickbait title,
Basically every post has included some form of toxic self-hate, minus one or two mentioning exercise. While I do like being able to confront these in the first place, the purported goals and name of this community gives people who are giving the exact wrong advice far too much credibility, and the last thing these people need is a comment with the most upbears regurgitating individualistic self-help concepts at them.
If we’re going to keep this sort of community around, I suggest doing some serious research and basing it off of DBT, and integrating serious critiques of CBT style mental healthcare and improvement.
I am just some random nerd who is terrible at self-improvement at general, so I understand taking this with some serious doubt. But I just had to get this off my chest.
Thank you, WithoutFurtherBelay
i had these same thoughts but was too cowardly to post. seeing someone belittle themselves as ‘immature’ for being unemployed and living with their parents, or for smoking weed, just reminds me of my own toxic internal monologue loops i work so hard to avoid/ignore/break. its toxic individualistic bourgeois framing of systemic issues. i’m mostly happy with my unemployed stoner life, a little lonely but it works for me. every time i try to get a job and be a real adult i end up having a very embarrasing public mental breakdown. i literally cannot handle the social and psychological stresses involved in most jobs, and frankly its ableist to imply that its just because i’m ‘lazy’ or ‘immature’ or ‘not a real adult’. when you take fire at yourself, you might hit anyone standing behind you.