• stoicmaverick@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    Who the hell is down voting this? Do you think I’m being homophobic by wanting to hear your experience from the person who experienced it?

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      10 months ago

      Both of you are coming vague. His “leaning more hetero at the time” and your emphasis on ACTUALLY, you sound like you’re doubting that a person can like penises and vaginas, or just straight up not care.

      He’s probably bi or pan. Probably always had been. He probably didn’t realize it in school, or wouldn’t admit it to himself due to societal pressure. He seems to be more comfortable about it now. It really doesn’t need much more detail.

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          10 months ago

          I feel like lemmy is sticking more to the old reddiquette upvote/downvote culture of “upvote if it contributes to the conversation, downvote if not”, and not the modern culture of “upvote is if lols”.

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      10 months ago

      It comes across kinda No True Scotsman-y. Like, “If you didn’t know you were bi, you were probably just faking”, especially with that emphasis.

      Maybe restating to “were you just curious at the time, or did you have experience?” would help?