I hope my enby peeps can help me out here.

I am very interested in exploring a more feminine expression, but my starting point is masc-af physically, so anything too feminine too quick is going to have a very hard contrast and I’m definitely more of an “I don’t want to stick out much” kind of person.

Any ideas that may be more androgynous, but not attention grabbing that I can try out? I am not good at picking outfits anyway, so I need all the help I can get.

Like beard and full body hair, so obviously lower cut stuff could be very dysmophic atm.

Maybe something that just feelsmore feminine but may not look it so much. You know? Does this make sense?

    • Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      10 months ago

      I do have some clear polish I’ve been meaning to try, but I want to add some shape first and try it out over the weekend. They’re long enough I’m getting self conscious but would like to try it out before I have to cut them.

      Any ideas on accessories? I’ve thought about stuff like small rings. I’m looking subtle. I’m definitely not brave enough for a skirt in public yet 🫤 definite a strong fear of “man in a dress”

      • celeste@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        10 months ago

        Yeah, I feel that. I mostly wear skirts when I’m with a group of queer people.

        Rings are an idea, there’s pins, necklaces, hair clips/bands. For earrings you should seek a piercer, they’re better than these nail canons you get in stores.

        You can also use different bags/ wear your bags differently and other smaller changes you can do to how you put together your outfit. Though I myself lack knowledge there.

        • Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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          10 months ago

          I will keep that in mind for piercing. It has crossed my mind, but attention 😱 even though I could alternate or wear androgynous, though I think my family would perceive androgynous as feminine.

          I’m having trouble bringing myself to shave my beard(had constantly for ~10 years) just because I don’t want to be asked about it a million times because it’s been so long. Not even that anyone will suspect anything just “hey (50th person in a row) noticed you changed something” 😓🙄😮‍💨 “Yeah…”

          • Franzia@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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            10 months ago

            You can try trimming it short first, and then do a bad trim and say you had to shave it because the trim ruined it ;)