That’s so incredibly thoughtful. If you honk at the wrong person in the US, you might end up on a Tshirt.

Just curious, you say you don’t care how they look, or what they’re interested in, nor that you’re interested in having a friend at this time. What exactly do you want this girlfriend to add to your life if those things are not even important?

Apologies in advance if I misunderstood.

Can do! 🫡

I was bullied so bad in school when I said I like sugar in my spaghetti 😅

Nah, just black.

You’ve said a few times this is your first time trying to really socialize in a few years, and that you’re also very young. You’re going to have to get through these growing pains to be frank. You sound very smart, don’t get me wrong, but you’re trying to find the cheat code for something that’s going to take work. Maybe you do have an “ugly” personality, and you may need to work on how you express yourself because of that, something you may not have had to do before since you were isolated.

You also mentioned a plethora of physical issues. While I absolutely don’t think that bars anyone from love, you are asking a lot from what om assuming is another teenager/young adult. You’re asking someone to take on all your physical, mental, and social issues all at once, some of which you can’t help them with working around because you yourself don’t know how to do that yet.

I think you’re trying to run before you can walk. Start with friends of any kind. Get better at socializing and catching up on social queues before you try dating. I understand wanting to be in a relationship right now but, and be honest, if a girl with your exact same issues wanted to date you, would you be interested? Would you, at this stage of your life, but looking to put your youth on hold to help her catch up, to deal with mental issues she may not even know she has yet?

TL;DR: Stop focusing on dating. Work on yourself first to bring yourself up to speed with socializing, and focusing on friendships with no expectations. Once that’s more comfortable, I would try again. Dating apps are socializing on nightmare mode and you’re still in the tutorial.

Successes: Repaired a hole in the wall, painted TV stand, simple sewing. Disasters; Simple sewing, trying to fix a leak under the sink.

Pet deaths are always so hard. They’re usually so perfect and sweet, and then they just go, and it’s always too soon. And you want to properly express to them, somehow, that they were perfect, they were beautiful, and they were loved.

Spaghetti with sugar.

I’ve always had a soft spot for The Exorcist.

Yes. I always use them. I hate when people don’t. Oh, so you needed to come over? I would have slowed down if you told me. What are you slowing down for? Move- Oh. You’re turning. Wish I would have known that. Dang, I need to pull out and make this turn. Let me wait until that car passes… Oh, they’re turning.

It’s such a small thing that makes driving safer for you and the people around you.

I’m starting to think this Trump guy doesn’t know what he’s doing. /s

That’s actually kind of comforting. Even if we aren’t normal, we’re not normal as a unit. 🫱🏽‍🫲🏻

She might just do that because your experience sounds very similar to her “stories.” She also can’t move when it happens and is left pretty hobbled until it passes, but moving makes it worse… So I’ve heard. 👀

Same! I don’t know why, but it’s like, “they were nice… I can never come here again.”

Maladaptive daydreaming, also called excessive daydreaming, is when an individual experiences excessive daydreaming that interferes with daily life. It is a proposed diagnosis of a disordered form of dissociative absorption, associated with excessive fantasy that is not recognized by any major medical or psychological criteria.

I think it’s just the name given to “extreme” day dreaming. It’s like having a TV on in the background for me. Sometimes I’ll just blink and realize I’ve been gone for a bit. 😅

I’m screen shotting this and the other reply. My friend asked for a spoon and I was like, “regular or little?” and she acted like I was insane. How the tables have turned.

What if you have a big butt?

1. It was based on a real life person who was black, not white: The creator addressed it and said it was intentional. He did it out of concerns that people who see it as a race issue versus a gender issue. He thought it would widen the audience.
2. Why a middle class kid: Same reason as above. He wanted to show that a “Good” kid from a “Good” family could find themselves being harmed by red pill content.
3. Why is it about “incels?” : Yes, that main case was about an older boy/teen/man, but there have been a rise in UK stabbings and sexual assault of kids by kids. It’s not specifically about incels, but the culture that’s creating them.
4. They’re trying to say that men are just evil: No, they are not. It’s literally trying to do the opposite. It’s trying to show that these men and boys are not just evil for evils sake, or born with it, but that the ideas are fed and nurtured through family, friends, social media, etc. It showing that even a really good kid from a good family can be made into something twisted if their nursed on this kind of content.
5. How come women get away with this but men don’t: It’s a result of the patriarchy. Because women are seen as lesser, even their crimes are seen as lesser (think of female teachers that “have sex” with students). Women are weak, so if you’re hurt by a woman, you’re weak. You were beat up by your girlfriend? Pussy, it’s not like she was a guy. He probably did something wrong, Yada, Yada, Yada. Those ideals shield some women from rightful punishment and block men from getting justice and care. (that’s actually very feminist of this video!)
6. This had nothing to do with the mansosphere or red pill content, it’s judt a hit piece on men: Men =/= red pill. The content is for men, but not all men consume it. The idea that this young man in the show who was lying about his relationships, pleading to know if the therapist liked him, went after a girl thinking she’d be “weak” enough after having her nudes shared (and thinking the guy that sent them messed up because he should have gotten more first), and then stabbing her to death when he was still rejected is the result of those toxic teachings. He even called himself a good guy because he didn’t touch her, even though he killed her.

Being held accountable can feel like an attack, but I hope you move past that initial anger. The show is actually very sympathetic towards the boy and his family. The show runner made the show to bring attention to the pressure cooker we are keeping men and boys in in the name of being masculine. Instead of thinking of it as a hit piece, think of it more of a man to man talk.

Hey, I know this is random, but was the pain, like, in the lower abdomen and like… Not really a muscle cramp, but deeper?And did physical activty make it better or worse? Asking for a friend. 👀