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  • Preposterous.

    CEO doesn’t make decisions about what product lines to discontinue. He didn’t create the Australia day thing.

    Of course you fire the CEO before the enquiry, so you can divert blame during the enquiry. “Oh yeah maybe we did some bad stuff but it’s all fixed now”.

    Woolworths is not “finding out”. They are, and will continue to be, one of our largest and most lucrative retailers. Seriously. How do you think Duttons boycott is going? Do you think product managers regret discontinuing the Chinese plastic flags?

    Just as it was a month ago, any assertion that Woolworth has made a mistake in discontinuing Australia day merch is just absurd.

    Frankly, I’m genuinely surprised you’re still fretting about it.








  • Dude. You asked how things worked out for Bud Light. Bud Light is InBev. Things are going great.

    You’re trying to shoe-horn their PR failure into your narrative that left-leaning companies get cancelled to make yourself feel better about… things, but the fact is Woolies ditched the merch because most people aren’t really interested in buying shitty plastic flag stuff on the 26th of January any more. Dutton whistled, and you barked. Woolies is doing fine. Even if they walked back this decision they would just stock a token flag in January because… there’s no money in that shit.









  • There’s a few different things going on here but sadly, one of them is poor financial decisions on Elaine’s part.

    I’m not blaming her for that, lord knows I’ve made more than my share of poor decisions financial and otherwise, but while there are valid criticisms to be made of our superannuation system, Elaine’s situation isn’t really a useful prism through which to enumerate them.

    One of the biggest problems is as always, privatisation. Some super funds are for profit, some are not for profit, and some are self managed. My point here is, because of the eyewatering amount of money in superannuation, and because it’s not managed by the government exclusively, it has attracted an entire industry of bottom feeders leaching off the pool of money. That wouldn’t necessarily be a problem in and of itself, but that industry spends a lot of time advocating for even more complex rules to ensure that it’s not navigable by the lay-person.


  • I respect your absolute discretion as administrator to run the instance as you wish, but I would like to provide my humble perspective.

    User’s blocking an instance is not an alternative to defederation. I’m not talking about hexbear but if an instance is promulgating hatred and intolerance, then their impact can still be felt through comments and vote manipulation. I’m not talking about an antisocial comment that would attract a moderator’s attention. I’m talking about the insidious manipulation of perspectives through vote manipulation that we all know occurs on social media.

    FWIW I think every large and well run instance ought to have a policy & process where by federation / defederation is resolved. These are the circumstances in which we will defederate, and this is the process we will follow when considering whether or not those circumstances have been met. Although of course I acknowledge that the time and resources required to develop such a thing are limited.

    As an aside, I suspect that the lemmyverse will fracture in the coming years. I’m not suggesting this for aussie.zone but in the future, I think many users will want to have instances federated by white list rather than black list, as in “we only federate with these other instances” rather than just federating by default.



  • I’ve also been through therapy for years, although not currently. IDK whether it’s true or not but for me personally I feel as though therapy can deteriorate from a short, sharp, beneficial “intervention” (which is very helpful) into a malaise of relating ones problems to a friendly ear (which is unproductive) … but I digress.

    This sounds to me like one of those problems which is a symptom potentially caused by a myriad of different issues, and as such has no specific “cure”. As you’ve said it’s “accumulated stress”, which is another way of saying the same thing. I feel like I run into this type of problem a lot: the solution is really easy, I just need to do better at life!

    My one suggestion would be to look at therapies for anxiety, since anger and anxiety are commonly symptoms of the same problem. There’s two common therapies for this.

    Firstly Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) - figuring out why your thoughts follow the patterns they do and as a result, learning how to change those patterns. This is hard work. It’s a bit like going to a gym. You need to set aside time for several sessions a week of examining the parts of yourself you’ve been trying not to think about your entire life. The gold standard for DIY CBT is “When Panic Attacks” by David Burns, alternatively “feeling great” by the same author. He has a podcast also. I know the dirty dog feet was just an off hand example, but to continue that example you might discover that you have a deeply held belief that people who have dirty houses end up sad lonely and unloved, a potential solution might be to tell someone who you feel is happy and well loved how difficult it is to keep a clean house - inevitably they will agree with you and tell you how hard they find keeping up with their chores.

    Secondly Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT) - accepting that stressors will always be present, understand that they’re harmless, fleeting thoughts, and committing to a course of action that is more meaningful than simply “avoiding stress”. Author Steven Hayes is the gold standard here but personally I find his stuff too heavy. I quite like “DARE” by Barry McDonagh, basically ACT but more easily digested. This one is more readily applied “in the moment”. It takes practice but there’s no sitting and pondering one’s soul so-to-speak. This is very difficult to explain in a sentence but you might acknowledge, in the moment, that dirty dog feet are infuriating, you feel that feeling, allow it to come. What you’ll find (with anxiety at least) is that if you don’t resist it but regard it with a welcoming curiosity, it will dissipate fairly quickly and leave you with a kind of energised readiness. “Well that was a thing!”. If feeling frustrated is a natural response, and you fight with yourself not to feel that, it creates an incredible tension - you push the feelings away and they just push back harder. You kind of learn to let the frustration come feel the feelings in a healthy way.