thestrugglingstudent
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5·1 year agoI grew up being taught that feminism is simply wanting men and women to be equal. Only as an adult, have I found that was not the case. But if you either stay in your echo camber, or simply don’t really participate in debates about feminism, it is very possible to never change your mind.
It depends. Some simply believe that wanting equality = being feminist. In that case it isn’t really a red flag. Otherwise, ask yourself if you want to spend your time with people you disagree with. Personally, I don’t think political disagreements are a dealbreaker and can occasionally find a civil argument fun, but at the same time I wouldn’t want to date someone who refuses to listen to me, or attacks me for my beliefs. Just being identifying as a feminist is definitely not enough to disqualify someone.
If the problem is structural barriers, then people need to speak up about it. Otherwise nothing will change.
That is a fair point. If the wages are that bad, I wouldn’t want anyone to work those jobs. Maybe we should look towards therapists or psychologists then… Better wages, dominated by women, and clearly in high demand.
Conditions and money is for sure a big part of it, but even with things as they are, way fewer men than women still choose these career paths. Surely there is a reason for that?
To start, I think that there is a certain feeling if you are a boy/man that somehow, these jobs are not for you. Inviting guest speakers, for example male kindergarten teachers, to high schools where they would speak about their experiences and why they chose that job could be a first step in making it sound more approachable.
Feminism is a political ideology, and in order to understand what a political ideology entails, you need to look at how it is applied to the real world. ‘Real’ communism is supposed to bring about a utopia in which resources are fairly distributed and everyone works as best they can to aid one another. In reality, communism has resulted in mass murder, famine and some of the most cruel dictatorships the modern world has seen.
‘Real’ capitalism is supposed to ensure that everyone produces what they are best at producing, and market forces should ensure that we get the best quality and cheapest products we can have while also making everyone richer. In reality, capitalism results in the aggregation of wealth and power, misleading advertising, horrible working conditions for the poor, and rising inequality.
In the same vein, ‘real’ feminism might be supposed to create equality by tearing down the societal structures that keeps people down, ultimately helping everyone. But in reality, it simply empowers women at any cost, resulting in the marginalization and silencing of men.
A communist might genuinely want the best for the world and envision a utopia, but that doesn’t change how the ideology is applied. And ultimately, that is the measure of what the ideology truly is. The actions of the leaders are the determinant, not the opinions of random followers.
As it stands, right now feminism is applied in a way that either ignores or silences men. and thus, it is anti-male.
It’s kinda hard, because if all you have experienced are the shallow women who only care about looks, money, and status, being told you are wrong will just make you feel invalidated. I don’t think it’s much different from women who assume that all men are misogynistic rapists due to having been traumatized by them. It is a way to tie your experiences and identity into the ideologies you support.