I don’t mean with BetterHelp or some other shit advertised on a podcast. I was looking up some therapists on psychologytoday.com and noticed so many do it online. There are some in person ones near me but they are still like a 35 min drive. I guess my side of the midsized city im in doesnt seem to have much.
I’ve been using DMs here as an informal form of therapy where I message users as if they’re my therapist and have been getting mixed results.
You seek advice through anonymity because your parents weren’t available for communicating emotional needs when you were young.
I recommend drugs.
I usually do my sessions online now, but I could go in person if I wanted to. It’s the same thing, you can just do it in your pajamas. Since it’s a 20 minute drive and gas is fucking expensive I’m fine doing it over TeleHealth. I’m still doing talk therapy and my therapist can even send me images explaining concepts and whatnot.
there’s an eat the rich episode about better help, i’m aware its not what you meant https://archive.org/details/9e7dcwwlnzsevyauyimid3po04wxn2p2ntef3frw
I’ve had some success with therapy online during lockdowns, but having a separate space for it is really helpful, but my therapist is only a ten minute walk from my house so
rolled a fraud, literally ruined my life. would not recommend. unironically please let me into canada so i can MAID
That happens in person too sadly
for sure, therapy is basically bloodletting and leeches waiting for advances in neurology we won’t survive to be treated with, but i would like to imagine a primarily in-person practice would not be as resilient to consistent negative outcomes.
When COVID started, I started seeing my therapist over telehealth. Using my laptop’s built-in camera, they weren’t able to see me below my shoulders, so they couldn’t get any sense of body language. That improved when I switched to a separate webcam and was able to put my whole top half on camera.
Although I spend my whole day standing up at my computer, I’m sitting down during therapy so I can relax.
When I tried connecting over VPN, the video call was choppy and had a maybe 3-second delay, so I stopped using VPN. Rarely, the video call has an 8ish-second delay, and my therapist’s internet is not great in general (a couple times, they emailed me beforehand, saying their internet was out and they couldn’t do a video call, but we could do a phone call if I wanted. I’ve always said no to the phone call).
In-person was probably more effective for me, but I wouldn’t be willing to go in-person unmasked (which would be necessary for the therapist to see facial expressions) because COVID, and my therapist does nothing in-person anymore except assessments anyway, also because of COVID.
(which would be necessary for the therapist to see facial expressions)
skill issue
It really depends on who you get. I’ve done both online and in person, and I’ve had great and terrible in person experiences as well as great and terrible online experiences.
The fact that it was online did not make a big difference to me personally. YMMV.
I do therapy online. Real talk: I don’t like it but I don’t like therapy to begin with if I’m being perfectly frank for a lot of reasons. TBH I mostly do it because I fucking love my partner who is a big believer in therapy and I do genuinely believe that talking with my therapist at least has the knock on effect of mitigating how much emotional labor I ask of her when working through my shit. Online is at least convenient. I found my therapist through psychologytoday.com as well.
I’ve hated it, personally. But then again, I’ve generally had bad experiences with therapy overall.
I have been doing my therapy over the phone for years and it’s been working very well for me! Really like my person and we connect. And it’s very convenient to be able to do from home / wherever.
I have also done in-person therapy with someone who I connected with less and ultimately stopped going to. I think the relationship you build with that person transcends the logistics.
