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  • silent_water [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    6 months ago

    this comes up every so often and I don’t think it’s poorly received. it’s really just cis het dudes sexualizing people that causes problems because of how dominant that particular gaze is. now that this site is majority queer, it might be worth revisiting. like we already leave horny posts from obviously queer people up, especially if they’re funny, like that gem about pretending to be an imperialist so the hexbear hyenas eat them. but something to keep in mind - it’s not always pleasant to encounter sexual content, especially when you aren’t expecting it, and it’s outright triggering for some. we have to strike a balance and, at least personally, I feel like we’re at a good one or very close to one: be funny, don’t make being horny the only point of the post, and don’t sexualize specific individuals.

    • Angel [any]@hexbear.net
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      6 months ago

      I agree with the take about it being triggering possibly. I’ve had to unfollow queer leftist Instagram accounts because of an excess of hornyposting. I wouldn’t describe myself as sex-negative at all, but sometimes, it’s just so damn overwhelming. I am demisexual in a sense, and the only person I feel too strongly about at this point in a romantic/sexual context is my partner. That may be a reason why it’s disturbing for me sometimes, but either way, a pinch of horniness isn’t that bad… just don’t overdo it, I guess. Too much of it is cringe.

      Also, when filthy straights hornypost, it’s even worse. I actually think my staunch disdain for heteronormativity made me pretty much unironically heterophobic.

      • alexandra_kollontai [she/her]@hexbear.net
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        6 months ago

        I completely agree with all of this, thank you for being able to word it in a way that so accurately represents my feelings. It’s so overwhelming.

        I’m very happy with the status quo.