I’ve come to understand that when people say, “I wish I could do that” or “I could live a life like that”… they’re just admiring a thing that is mildly interesting or fashionable.
Most people hear “you can do it too” as a challenge to their current choices and not an invitation to a happier life. I don’t take it personal…
As for how you’re living, I find it really inspiring! I’ve tried to work out how I can make some changes and it’s great to hear that others are doing it well.
Definitely. If they say something non-specific like " that sounds great" or " I wish I could do that", I don’t pursue the topic at all.
It’s more after we have a conversation including “Do you think I could do that too? How? Can you help me do it?” And I have to provide specific answers or show them and then receive the brunt of their ire or dismissal.
It is so satisfying when I do help someone achieve their goals, though, that if I am asked specific questions I usually help, even if nine out of 10 people will balk at the opportunity once they can see it in front of them.
I’ve come to understand that when people say, “I wish I could do that” or “I could live a life like that”… they’re just admiring a thing that is mildly interesting or fashionable.
Most people hear “you can do it too” as a challenge to their current choices and not an invitation to a happier life. I don’t take it personal…
As for how you’re living, I find it really inspiring! I’ve tried to work out how I can make some changes and it’s great to hear that others are doing it well.
Definitely. If they say something non-specific like " that sounds great" or " I wish I could do that", I don’t pursue the topic at all.
It’s more after we have a conversation including “Do you think I could do that too? How? Can you help me do it?” And I have to provide specific answers or show them and then receive the brunt of their ire or dismissal.
It is so satisfying when I do help someone achieve their goals, though, that if I am asked specific questions I usually help, even if nine out of 10 people will balk at the opportunity once they can see it in front of them.