For complete strangers who you never see again, it doesn’t matter if you judge them or not, you’ll never see them again.
It’s useful on aggregate to tell the general attitude of an area to set expectations for interacting with strangers.
But mostly what people are talking about is when you’re getting to know someone. If you find out an acquaintance or romantic prospect does/doesn’t then it’s one (of many) indicators you can gather to build a model of them.
Remember, this isn’t deep. This is intentionally super simple. There is no “struggle” involved that wouldn’t be immediately apparent. There is very little room for nuance because there is very little to be nuanced about.
This is “given the chance, will this person spend a trivial amount of effort to make someone’s life easier, if there is no personal gain?”
First, what absolute savage would take a new acquaintance or romantic interest grocery shopping and make a show out of leaving the cart? Thats absolutely a red flag.
Second, you are right that with strangers it won’t matter if you judge them, but thats only true from their perspective. The way you think and carry on affects how you feel, its not a good idea to waste energy judging people in that way. It affects how you perceive and interact with the world essentially.
For complete strangers who you never see again, it doesn’t matter if you judge them or not, you’ll never see them again.
It’s useful on aggregate to tell the general attitude of an area to set expectations for interacting with strangers.
But mostly what people are talking about is when you’re getting to know someone. If you find out an acquaintance or romantic prospect does/doesn’t then it’s one (of many) indicators you can gather to build a model of them.
Remember, this isn’t deep. This is intentionally super simple. There is no “struggle” involved that wouldn’t be immediately apparent. There is very little room for nuance because there is very little to be nuanced about.
This is “given the chance, will this person spend a trivial amount of effort to make someone’s life easier, if there is no personal gain?”
First, what absolute savage would take a new acquaintance or romantic interest grocery shopping and make a show out of leaving the cart? Thats absolutely a red flag.
Second, you are right that with strangers it won’t matter if you judge them, but thats only true from their perspective. The way you think and carry on affects how you feel, its not a good idea to waste energy judging people in that way. It affects how you perceive and interact with the world essentially.