• Flying Squid@lemmy.world
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    30 days ago

    You would think so, but there’s a certain user here who expects us all to play along with their stated gender. Their stated gender is the name of a mythical animal.

    Somehow no one has played along.

    Other than that specific person though, I have yet to meet a queer person who had an issue with being called ‘they/them’ even if their preferred pronouns are ‘zir’ or whatever. My wife works with multiple nonbinary people (librarians are an eclectic bunch). None of them expect you to call them by their preferred pronoun. They just don’t want you to intentionally misgender them either.

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      30 days ago

      Never really saw it become a big deal, aren’t they just talking in third person?

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        30 days ago

        Nope. They got pissed off that I called them not just “them,” but “you.”

        And I explained to them that both of those pronouns are gender-neutral and that they apply to everyone and I would be willing to use them on anyone. Now they’re following me around and harassing me for doing things like using ‘he’ when referring to Caillou. As in the cartoon toddler.