I’m a straight man and I’m comfortable in my gender and sexual identity etc I just don’t feel the need to do anything stereotypically “masculine”. Maybe it’s just because I never felt like labels or categories define you or limit you. I just do me and what I enjoy and don’t worry too much about societal expectations.

But I read on here a lot of people who do seem to care about this stuff. Saying things like “the man always wants to be the provider”. Talking about what it means to be a man in the 21st century, and how masculinity has changed.

I’m not denying these people’s experiences, just curious about the difference- why you do feel it’s important to asset a masculine role or identity? Or why not? What even is “masculinity”?

  • iiiEnglish
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    4 days ago

    Saying things like “the man always wants to be the provider”. Talking about what it means to be a man in the 21st century, and how masculinity has changed.

    That’s how they want to be, but it creates friction in current society. “Just be yourself” is looked down on, in their case. So they have to mask, get frustrated, …

    Your way of living is the more tolerated form currently. Hence you’re more comfortable in life, and feel less friction.