Not sure if this is where I should post this. I just gotta put this out there, somewhere, anywhere.
My best friend since before COVID barely calls anymore. If I want to speak to her, I’m the one that has to initiate that conversation. We’ve gone many days between even a text, unless I again initiate it. We used to be so close. But now I see how close she is with her new friends and cannot help but feel left out. There’s so many times that I’ve felt left out, or forgotten about. I just feel so alone.
They all kind of ditched me to go to the casino tonight. We were all together and they just abruptly decided to leave. I’m not surprised as they excluded me for half of the party anyways. They can all speak English just fine but speak Vietnamese, which I can barely understand. I understand why they prefer to speak it, but it wasn’t always this way. They used to speak English so that I could contribute to the conversation, but now not at all (I’m not exaggerating)
I’m staying over at her place this weekend so I went back to her house alone. My eyes feel a bit raw from how much I’ve been crying since I got here.
So alone. So much for a big sis.
This is where you need to value yourself over the friendship. What you’ve described is pretty much unacceptable. I would just go home, get an Uber, just walk, whatever.
That kind of behaviour is completely unacceptable, no matter how much you care about her.
Address the situation directly with her, if it ends things, then so be it, you will be better off alone than being made to feel like you don’t belong by someone you care for.
There are other people out there who will value you and your time more.
It’s hard to tell without lots of specifics. Maybe Friend is just getting in touch with their Vietnamese roots and feels awkward about the situation so isn’t communicating very well. But yeah, they should be more careful about OP’s feelings.