Meanwhile I had the opposite problem. Lots of friends that happened to be girls. Then they find a partner, and the conversations, meetups and discussions fizzle away, especially if I stop initiating contact. I then learn years down the line “oh yeah I had such a huge crush on you” or “I’da fucked your brains out” or some other combination. And then general blaming for me not “making the move” like no shit, I treated you as a friend. If you wanted that, just say it openly please
So many opportunities are passed by on both sides because of this miscommunication.
Men hear women’s don’t want you to go in with the expectation of anything other than friendship, while also expecting men to know their subtle hints that they are interested so they can come off feeling more desirable.
Women on the other hand don’t trust most men because of what they see around us, their past interactions with men, and for the above stated. They don’t want to feel like just meat for the dogs.
If both sides would be more open instead of all of this beating around the bush, I feel like most people would go in with better expectations and maybe even better experiences. All because they were open and honest from the beginning.
Just my thoughts, as I’ve been in both positions before as a teen, and definitely regret not being more open with the people I was interacting with!
I’ve had plenty of platonic friendships. I lived with one girl for 4 years and we get along great. Our birthday is one day apart and even though we live 1000 miles apart we still celebrate our birthdays together every year. She’s married and I’ve made friends with her husband and I’m married and she’s friends with my wife. So yeah, it’s possible if you’re not a dumb neanderthal and see women as people.
I am a 40 year old man and I have multiple lifelong female friends.
Sure, I bumped into the problem of a one sided romantic interest a few times in my life, but I have lifelong platonic female friends.
I also have lifelong female friends who I have slept with. The stars aligned to make it happen (like both of us going through a breakup) but we knew it wasn’t going to be anything else and we talked about it and never mentioned it again. That’s a rare, rare, rare thing though. It probably could have developed into more if we had wanted the same things, but we didn’t and we discussed it.
It is possible. I’m living proof.
Hell, I’ve shared beds with some of these lifelong female friends and nothing happened. We’re still friends today. I got lucky and landed a woman who trusts me and doesn’t question my intentions because she knows that I wouldn’t cheat on her for all of the gold on the planet.
One of my lifelong female friends is a bit odd though, and she always messages my wife to let her know she’s about to contact me before she does. We’ve both told her she doesn’t have to do that, but she’s a very pretty woman who is used to making jealous women suspicious.
I mean sure. It’s a bit more to navigate at times but it is doable.
Meanwhile I had the opposite problem. Lots of friends that happened to be girls. Then they find a partner, and the conversations, meetups and discussions fizzle away, especially if I stop initiating contact. I then learn years down the line “oh yeah I had such a huge crush on you” or “I’da fucked your brains out” or some other combination. And then general blaming for me not “making the move” like no shit, I treated you as a friend. If you wanted that, just say it openly please
So many opportunities are passed by on both sides because of this miscommunication.
Men hear women’s don’t want you to go in with the expectation of anything other than friendship, while also expecting men to know their subtle hints that they are interested so they can come off feeling more desirable.
Women on the other hand don’t trust most men because of what they see around us, their past interactions with men, and for the above stated. They don’t want to feel like just meat for the dogs.
If both sides would be more open instead of all of this beating around the bush, I feel like most people would go in with better expectations and maybe even better experiences. All because they were open and honest from the beginning.
Just my thoughts, as I’ve been in both positions before as a teen, and definitely regret not being more open with the people I was interacting with!
Unbridled proof that young single hetero-males and young single hetero-females cannot just be friends.
That’s some grade school bullshit
No it ain’t broski
I’ve had plenty of platonic friendships. I lived with one girl for 4 years and we get along great. Our birthday is one day apart and even though we live 1000 miles apart we still celebrate our birthdays together every year. She’s married and I’ve made friends with her husband and I’m married and she’s friends with my wife. So yeah, it’s possible if you’re not a dumb neanderthal and see women as people.
You’re married and old. It isn’t the same. Maybe I should’ve phrased it better.
So when we met I was unmarried and young. But keep moving those goalposts buddy
What do you smoke?
Crack
Cock? Then why is this even something you’re thinking about?
:p I’m sorry.
I am a 40 year old man and I have multiple lifelong female friends.
Sure, I bumped into the problem of a one sided romantic interest a few times in my life, but I have lifelong platonic female friends.
I also have lifelong female friends who I have slept with. The stars aligned to make it happen (like both of us going through a breakup) but we knew it wasn’t going to be anything else and we talked about it and never mentioned it again. That’s a rare, rare, rare thing though. It probably could have developed into more if we had wanted the same things, but we didn’t and we discussed it.
It is possible. I’m living proof.
Hell, I’ve shared beds with some of these lifelong female friends and nothing happened. We’re still friends today. I got lucky and landed a woman who trusts me and doesn’t question my intentions because she knows that I wouldn’t cheat on her for all of the gold on the planet.
One of my lifelong female friends is a bit odd though, and she always messages my wife to let her know she’s about to contact me before she does. We’ve both told her she doesn’t have to do that, but she’s a very pretty woman who is used to making jealous women suspicious.
I mean sure. It’s a bit more to navigate at times but it is doable.
Most of my friends are women and I’m a hetero male, guess were not friends then?
Yeah but you’re like 40+. It’s different for older folks
So?
You’re probably married and less spontaneous. I should’ve been more specific
Not married. And you being specific doesn’t help.
Let’s chock it up to your age then
I’m going to assume you just want negative attention.
It’s that, or you aren’t mature enough to have friends that are adults.