I didn’t say I don’t have sexual attraction. if anything my attraction has broadened since my teenage years, I find so many more types attractive than I did during peak hormonal days.
finding people sexy or beautiful isn’t the same as treating all of them as goals. you can just think hey she’s hot without needing to get in their pants.
also I’m not saying people shouldn’t try to fuck anyone, I’m saying they shouldn’t try to fuck everyone.
Well not having sexual attraction at all would be asexual, rather than demi-sexual, and even then, you can still find or think someone is attractive without actually being sexually attracted to them, as it’s not really the only form of attraction to exist.
And unfortunately, usually due to any number of personal problems, including but not limited to lack of impulse control, it seems quite difficult for many to not want sex with whoever they find attractive, as I’ve personally seen several times by now.
But of course that’s hard for me to exactly understand given I don’t seem to feel sexual or romantic attraction to anyone myself, despite having or being close enough emotionally to people that either would be reasonably apparent.
And of course, I don’t mean offense toward people in consensual circumstances such as an open relationship with that second line, quite the contrary, as that’s not an impulse control issue, nor an problem if consent is given and done safely, etc.
It’s just they don’t really want to have sex with someone unless they first have an emotional bond (and since it’s a spectrum, some literally don’t find a person sexy at all until there’s an emotional bond).
A lot of people don’t have that limitation though - it’s not a goal or anything, they just also get sexual urges with hot people and therefore want to have sex.
Those people usually are up for / have one night stands for example, because they don’t really need any emotional connection to want to have sex.
Word of the day (because I suspect many humans don’t realize they fall into this category):
Demisexual
I didn’t say I don’t have sexual attraction. if anything my attraction has broadened since my teenage years, I find so many more types attractive than I did during peak hormonal days.
finding people sexy or beautiful isn’t the same as treating all of them as goals. you can just think hey she’s hot without needing to get in their pants.
also I’m not saying people shouldn’t try to fuck anyone, I’m saying they shouldn’t try to fuck everyone.
Well not having sexual attraction at all would be asexual, rather than demi-sexual, and even then, you can still find or think someone is attractive without actually being sexually attracted to them, as it’s not really the only form of attraction to exist.
And unfortunately, usually due to any number of personal problems, including but not limited to lack of impulse control, it seems quite difficult for many to not want sex with whoever they find attractive, as I’ve personally seen several times by now.
But of course that’s hard for me to exactly understand given I don’t seem to feel sexual or romantic attraction to anyone myself, despite having or being close enough emotionally to people that either would be reasonably apparent.
And of course, I don’t mean offense toward people in consensual circumstances such as an open relationship with that second line, quite the contrary, as that’s not an impulse control issue, nor an problem if consent is given and done safely, etc.
Demisexuals do have sexual attraction though.
It’s just they don’t really want to have sex with someone unless they first have an emotional bond (and since it’s a spectrum, some literally don’t find a person sexy at all until there’s an emotional bond).
A lot of people don’t have that limitation though - it’s not a goal or anything, they just also get sexual urges with hot people and therefore want to have sex.
Those people usually are up for / have one night stands for example, because they don’t really need any emotional connection to want to have sex.