• arabiclearner [none/use name]@hexbear.net
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    1 year ago

    Most ppl use online now and as a guy online is a nightmare (unless you’re in the top 5-10% of guys in terms of looks, since that’s pretty much the only thing you’re judged by online). You’re gonna get barely any matches and out of those you are barely going to get any dates. If you’re a girl you may find it hard to find an actually good guy, but you won’t be wont for attention. Various studies have pretty much confirmed this. If this continues, then I only foresee a dark future ahead, as guys like Andrew Tate will funnel that frustration into their own movements. I posted a good video about this a while back: https://hexbear.net/post/613122 but it barely got any enagement, which makes me think leftists as a whole don’t want to face men’s loneliness issues on anything but a surface level.

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      The thing is that leftists don’t have any kind of answer for men’s loneliness. Not even superficial ones.

      The right will use Jews or communists or slutty women as scapegoats for all their problems. Then they propose that the solutions are: working out 34/8, treating women like trash, chasing money, and becoming Patrick Bateman unironically.

      Regardless of how abhorrent these solutions and answers are, they’re explicit, at least. But leftists will correctly point to capitalism and alienation as one of the biggest, if not, primary driver of men’s loneliness.

      So capitalism makes me busier and poorer to do anything. It commodifies relationships and turns it into an HR job screening. It promotes unhealthy values and qualities. Social media BAD!!! But… then what?

      No one has anything to propose other than reading about the history of the bullshit we’re facing, which is fine, but then what? It doesn’t address anything. You’re equipped with knowledge about why life sucks but your dick remains unsucked and your friends are talking discord heads.

      People’s attention spans are shit, so “manipulate women until they love you unconditionally even through abuse” = tangible goal, while “dismantle capitalism and patriarchy” = abstract goal that takes millennia. The other common suggestions are go get a hobby or talk to people in groups or events, but I think it’s pretty clear these suggestions fall on deaf ears. These people’s self esteem are likely nonexistent. They likely don’t believe anything anymore. So telling them they just need to try harder won’t work.

      Becoming less toxic, more presentable and interesting, and more understanding the world around you are all good goals that should be suggested. But it doesn’t result in anything, otherwise we wouldn’t be having this conversation.