Harping on people to get married from up in the ivory tower fails to engage with reality of life in the dating trenches.

  • MonsterHighStan@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    The standard doesn’t necessarily apply in reverse if you look at how the work is split between male and female partners in hetero relationships - it’s often skewed that the woman does a lot more emotional work, household work, and childcare, on top of also having full time jobs. I think you’re right though, if men aren’t meeting women’s standards, then women should either be content to be single, hook up with other women (for those who would prefer), or reexamine how important romantic relationships are for them.

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      1 year ago

      if men aren’t meeting women’s standards, then women should either be content to be single, hook up with other women, or reexamine how important romantic relationships are for them.

      I take issue with the part that is bold and italisied. Not sure what you are saying, but it seems like a gross misunderstanding how people work.

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        1 year ago

        Obviously that part only applies to people who are bisexual/pansexual/gay. I’m not saying that hetero women should just become gay >.< Though I realize it sounds like that, it isn’t what I meant.