I painted my nails for the first time, in pursuit of understanding my gender.
How have you liked it? I felt like I couldn’t pick anything up when I first tried it. What color did you choose?
Just pick a color you like. Do you have a favorite color? If not pick one at random and try it, you can always remove it if you don’t like it.
I like purple with a little texture (glitter is great lol).
OTOH, it’s harder to get stuff out from under my nails when they’re polished. Haven’t painted them in a while but that’s mostly bc I’m lazy lol. Been meaning to re-dye my hair for multiple months.
I love it! The color variety was certainly overwhelming, but i settled on a dark blue.
I kind of want to check out my cities local pride events, but I also REALLY get overwhelmed by crowds, noise, and such. Also I don’t really have anyone to go with. So I might just celebrate and online. I’ll probably just buy a really trashy wlw book or two and read? I’ll be open to reading suggestions lol.
You might like hanging out on the sidelines of the staging area for the parade? You get to see everything and everyone excited and getting ready, but music isn’t playing yet and there isn’t a crowd watching until outside the staging area.
I’m working mostly from home, but when I’m in the office I will always wear some kind of pride shirt this month. Otherwise there is not that much happening, at least in RL. We do not have Pride here, “only” Christopher Street Day but that’s in July. But I plan to attend there (it’s more like a demo, not a parade). Maybe I will finally get in contact with the local queer community. I’m not very social, so I don’t like to attend events alone. But pride month might give me a little push :)
I’ve been thinking a lot about how polyamory plays into my queerness - I’m lucky enough to have significantly expanded my local chosen family since Pride in 2021, and over the last year our housing situation has gotten much more stable.
I think that I’m almost more committed to polyamory than I am to bisexuality, as a label. I certainly face more problems as a polyamorous person than as a bi one.
I’ve always found it weird the push back against looping polyamory under the queer umbrella. Yes, there are some cis straight poly folks out there, but if you’ve ever been poly you’d realize that they too get a lot of identity erasure, face stigma from talking about having multiple partners, etc. Obviously everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but if queer is supposed to represent non cisheteronormative behavior, I think its fair to call monogamy another kind of normative behavior and celebrate diversity in human attraction and relationships.
I’ll be attending two pride events, hosting a social event for one of the spaces I’m in, and there’s a progress pride flag in my front window.
Plus all of my usual activism.
Orlando is objectively a queer friendly city, but they don’t have any pride events in June.
There’s an unofficial event each June called “Disney World Gay Days” (not affiliated with Disney themselves, who just treat it like any other summer day), so Orlando moved their pride celebration to October instead. I think it’s understandable, but it always sucks to feel left out from the rest of the queer community.
I’ve actually have never been to Pride, since other things tend to conflict, and social anxiety in general. This year, I will definitely participate (motivated by the phrase: “Pride is a Protest”). I’ve been “openly queer” for the last 5ish years, but I haven’t been “openly trans”, but I’m taking steps to own that identity, at least more openly. Perhaps people can clock me as trans, but no one ever says anything, so i think I might currently qualify as “stealth”, but I feel like I don’t pass. Just in that weird superposition.
I have at least one symbolic gesture I want to make this June. I play Women’s Flat Track Roller Derby, and I want to fly the trans flag during my player intro. It’s a very small thing to do, but trans athletics has been under attack, so I feel like choosing to be a visible trans athlete is something i need to do
I’m a derby skater as well, and the only trans athlete I know is a FTM transman who beat out two dozen dudes to make the Team USA Mens team. I’m glad our sport is generally welcoming to a diverse group of people.
I love the idea of flying a trans flag during your intro.
I’m glad our sport is generally welcoming to a diverse group of people.
I know this intellectually, but it’s so difficult for me to internalize that “WFTDA unconditionally welcomes trans skaters”. I’ve just felt like a second-class citizen for most of my derby career, as if “being too good” (i do a lot of cross training to improve my strength and agility, so people on the outside could easily blame me being a strong player on “natural advantages from male puberty”) could push me out of the sport that I’ve pour so much of myself into.
Over time, my league has grown, and we now have five (!) trans femme or nonbinary skaters. Seeing them being accepted (including a non-medically-transitioning AMAB enby) has really helped my recent mental state related to this
I’m playing bass for a production of Kinky Boots if that’s anything. I’m also working up the courage to come out to my close friends.
I’m trying to do this too, I’m already out to some friends, but I want to come out to my best friend and that’s going to be huge for me.
Went on a date with both members of a married couple, that’s probably the queerest thing so far. And hardly planned it this way but I’m gonna be having facial feminisation surgery in a couple of weeks, so guess that counts?
I’ll try to fit in as much gay shit as I possibly can, but that’s hardly unique to June.
Maybe watch some queer-positive TV shows (I don’t know of many, anyone got suggestions?) and buy some new pride gear from LGBTQ+ businesses.
Perhaps you’ve heard of them already, but here are a few I’ve enjoyed over the past couple of years:
- Our Flag Means Death (gay pirates, very cozy vibes)
- A League of Their Own (the formation of the first all-female baseball league during WW2, excellent lesbian representation, strong writing and themes)
- Pose (a look into 80s ballroom culture, strong trans representation, but I’d only recommend the first season bc the writing quality sharply drops in the next two imo)
- What We Do in the Shadows (queer vampire roommates and their queer human servant get into various antics, really funny)
I’ve heard good things about What We Do in the Shadows, totally forgot about it since I’ve been so busy lately. Thanks for the recommendations!
I’ll second that recommend, the show and the original movie never fail to get a laugh out of me. I gotta catch up on the show though, I keep forgetting they’ve come out with a new season haha.
I’m sure you’ve heard of it, but heaps of people are going crazy for the Queer Ulimatum atm! It’s a reality TV show which I’m not normally into but I enjoyed watching this! (edit: I should add that its a WLW/non-binary cast)
My university student pride collective got reached out to by our university’s faculty and staff pride collective about the idea of us marching together in our city’s parade in August, so this month likely gonna be full of planning for that!
I’m hoping to attend a pride event in-person (I’ve never been to one!) but I’ll have to travel because my city does pride in the fall. Not sure if that will work out :/
You live in GA? :P Atlanta pride is some fun, but it is very busy. If you’re looking for something a bit more intimate, Savannah pride has been wonderful when I’ve gone.
Got nonbinary laces for the boots I wear, and a couple of rainbow bracelets to wear. Painted my nails red, orange, green, blue and purple, (one colour on each nail). Joined an LGBT+ forum.
Sadly not a lot, well I have to coming out to my employers this month because of my name change (because anyway they will see that my name is now Lily on the pay), they are probably the last people I want to say it. I also bought a pin to put on my shirts with my name and my pronouns, so that’s also a plus!
I would love to go to pride, but in my city, there’s no pride. But next year i’m going in a bigger city and I will always celebrate pride there
Going to my first pride! I’ve also been really wanting to meet queer people IRL and am going to be volunteering at my local pride events :)
I’m not big on the main parade, but I love the smaller community marches, and make sure to join them if I can. So, Toronto trans march and dyke march, for sure :)
