(sorry if this is the wrong community)

Mostly I keep to myself online, but I decide to take ONE photo of myself for femboy friday; Groomers and Chasers are already in my DMs asking for degrading shit and NSFW things. Every single goddamn thing in the reddit community is sexualized: Gay black men on “shitposting” subs, trans, non-binary and femboy folks on 196, 196 offshoots, and in general, women in most mainstream communities and anything involving pictures…

Complete fetishization of human beings without regard, and what really pisses me off is I fell for a groomer (now blocked,) and it was just a really fucked up past two hours 😰 (I won’t go into detail because I am really grossed out and ashamed and feel dirty)

I just want to feel comfortable, have affirmation for who I am, not be lonely, or FUCKING GROOMED!🤬 End of rant I guess… How could we fucking kill this type of culture?😡

  • Gaia [She/Her]@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
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    11 months ago

    I presume you’re young, since you talk about being groomed. I hate this culture just as much as you do. To be completely honest, I may be MORE exposed to it because I work at a sex shop. Since I pass except for key features that chasers like, the presumption is that I’m a sex object.

    I don’t even give them the time of day, and I think that helps. I’m willing to do sex work and the like, but not if the first two things you say to me are “can I fuck you though” and when I say no “can I suck your dick”. I am a person, and a woman, and I deserve respect before you treat me like meat.

    Find a place that has more women on average. I have found they will give you respect men would never, including gender affirmation. I worked with a pretty conservative but hangs out with the gays boomer lady and she had no issues gendering me properly and was very protective of me even though I “have man strength” 😭

    Tbh I think you just have to not post on places that chasers will troll, like femboy subs on Reddit. Reddit is a shithole, and you might do better to find a heavily moderated discord.

    I’m sorry you’re also experiencing this. I know that it makes me feel like an object in a sickening and unenjoyable way.