• Omega@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    Just curious. Why make an exception for marriage? If the intention is so people can identify you if they recently knew you by your previous name, that seems even more pertinent.

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            11 months ago

            Meh. True monogamy is quite rare in mammals.

            Used to think monogamy was very common in birds, but IRC thanks to DNA testing, we now know plenty of baby birds have a different daddy. Ie. they raise the baby together, but they have an open relationship and impregnate/get impregnated by other birds.

            Apparently that’s surprisingly rare in humans.

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              11 months ago

              Less that they “have an open relationship” and more that the birds sneak around behind each-other’s backs. Males go off and try to sneakily impregnate other females, females sneak around and try to get impregnated by other males. You find it in apes too.

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                11 months ago

                Isn’t this anthropomorphizing, though? Is there evidence that the mates would experience emotional distress if they learned their partners were “cheating” on them?

                Being in a consensually monogamous relationship, I know I would and my husband would, but how much of that is cultural? I’m not really convinced it’s something that’s ubiquitous in the animal kingdom, though if you have a source about this that discredits my (admittedly amateurish) hypothesis, I’d be open to learning more.

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        11 months ago

        No it isn’t. Religion usurped it and claim they invented it but it’s older than that

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      11 months ago

      The answer is that there shouldn’t be. And a woman changing her name to match her husband’s is archaic patriarchal bullshit. I’m glad my wife decided not to do that.

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      11 months ago

      I’m just spit-balling here, but I assume the reason for requiring someone to disclose a recent name change is so that you don’t have someone trying to run under a new name for reasons of deception. “What’s that? Oh no, it’s okay, I know that Donald Trump can’t be on the ballot, but my name is Ronald Krump. Common mistake.”

      In most jurisdictions you can legally change your name when you get married without paying a fee or filing any other paperwork (don’t ask me if that applies to men, that’s a whole other archaic bit of bullshit). It’s therefore also the most common reason for someone to change their name, and I guess they just figured nobody would bother getting married just so they could get on a ballot with a different name.

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      11 months ago

      I would guess it is for establishing that you meet residency requirements to be eligible to run for office and don’t have a criminal history that would disqualify you.

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      11 months ago

      I assume because marriage requires a lot of documentation and an official process, whereas my name change only required my friends to sign a document I made.

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        11 months ago

        Marriage requires a license and an officiant. Name change often requires a hearing and publication in a newspaper. So, no, you’re wrong.

          • ℛ𝒶𝓋ℯ𝓃@pawb.social
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            11 months ago

            In most US states you need to have a decree of name change notarized by the county clerk, or issued by a family court if. Not that hard to do, but a lot more formal and government-involved than the UK process.

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              11 months ago

              Did I say it was? I said “I assume”, and “my name change”, not hard to read one sentence.

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                11 months ago

                Your name change, which took place in an entirely different country than where this all occurred… and you assume it was the same process, then you get mouthy with the guy who corrected you…

                You sure you’re from the UK? You sound more like an American twat.

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                  11 months ago

                  Yes, mine, which I was very clear about. I said “I assume”, which seemed like a nice and fair enough caveat. The guy who “corrected” my experience? Yeah okay. Said “No, you’re wrong” to my own experience is just being a knob.

                  I really don’t care what you think.

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              11 months ago

              You missed the part were I said “my name change”. I have no idea about Ohio, and you didn’t seek to give clarification, you just responded like a prick.

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        11 months ago

        It could be clerical. Changing your last name due to marriage is a different process than changing your full name.

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      11 months ago

      You can find a name change on the marriage license. So perhaps you look up the name of the person on the marriage license and find the previous name.