• wirelesswire@lemmy.zip
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    1 month ago

    Be direct. “It’s been great, but I have other things to take care of (or get to bed if night). See you later!”

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      They literally asked “oh, what do you have to take care of?” I said “I have an oil change scheduled” and they said “oh I can go with you”

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        “No thanks”

        Look, I understand, I have social anxiety, but you just need to say what you want and move on. Of they don’t like it, then they don’t like it - who cares?

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          This. I think this person has just shown that it’s really important to set boundaries with them, and not worry if they like it.

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        That person desperately needs someone in their life to tell them the truth.

        “I am done hanging out. I need to be alone now”

        Some people are autistic and as an autistic person myself believe me when I say there is like one in ten thousand people who will actually tell the truth, and they only do it once in a blue moon.

        Be that person.

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        “That would be fun but after that I have to xxxxxxx for my mom, then….xxxxxx”

        Imply the ‘no’ - that would be butttttt nope.