I had a discussion recently with someone about this. Since we don’t really celebrated our birthdays we weren’t sure what’s “normal “.

  • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
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    3 hours ago

    Neither.

    IDGAF if anyone remembers, and I ain’t reminding anyone.

    About the only thing I care about regarding my birthday is being allowed to nap without interruption lol.

  • Vaggumon@lemm.ee
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    2 hours ago

    HAHA No, I don’t expect them to remember, and I don’t remind them. In August I’ll be 47 I haven’t had a birthday party, gift, or card since I was maybe 25, the year my mother passed away. I’ve been married for 21 years. Not to be clear, my wife does say “Happy birthday”. But she’s not really a gift giver type of person.

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    4 hours ago

    I don’t celebrate my birthday and I don’t tell people my birthday unless it’s required for something.

  • andrew@radiation.party
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    4 hours ago

    I plan on not celebrating my birthday and only bring it up if conversation happens to lead there, or if somebody asks. Usually somebody remembers and offers a dinner or to hang out. Not a fan of big parties! Too much hubbub.

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    6 hours ago

    Those that know, know. I don’t like the extra attention on an arbitrary day. I also don’t message people happy birthday. Only if I see you in person or you’re my wife and I’m away.

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    4 hours ago

    I don’t want to be celebrated, so it’s up to other folks if they want to celebrate my birthday. I’m certainly not going to remind them.

  • HubertManne@moist.catsweat.com
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    7 hours ago

    I don’t particularly like celebrating birthdays or holidays so I definitely do not expect anyone to remember. I also avoid telling my birthday whenever I can evading as I can. That being said I throw peoples birthday into my cal as I discover them so I can be congnizant of them since most people do celebrate that stuff. If you want to impress me though get me a really relevant gift out of the blue that you got for free, made, or was just a steal of a deal. or a handmedown. don’t be like seinfeld though and lie to me on how cheap you got the thing as the experience should be authentic.

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    4 hours ago

    It is on my shared electronic calendar, physical home calendar, and I remind people that I want to have plans with. I also decorate for housemates’ birthday weeks.

    I don’t tell strangers.

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    6 hours ago

    If they’re close friends and family I definitely expect them to remember. It’s a good indicator of who I can trust in my life as well, those who usually remember just also happen to be on the trustworthy list.

  • Miles O'Brien@startrek.website
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    4 hours ago

    The only celebrating I do is eating slightly more unhealthy, take the day off work unless it’s going to be a short day, and maybe look to see if any games in my “maybe if it’s on steep sale” list are on sale.

    That’s it.

    I don’t remind people, I dont expect anyone to remember, but it’s nice when they do.

    My excuse for missing people’s birthdays is I DO know the date… I just don’t know what the date today is. Sure I know my sister was born on the 12th, but that doesn’t matter if I think today is the 10th and it’s actually the 15th…

    So if I have that much problem, it wouldn’t be very chill to be upset with others for missing mine.