• AcidSmiley [she/her]@hexbear.net
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      1 year ago

      Yeah but the entire point is that hairdressers get that reaction you’re describing from clients who … well, happen to be women and the person in that comic isn’t a woman. That’s the entire point, that hairdressers really struggle to respect the gender identity of AFAB trans people. It’s super widespread. Every time i look in localized trans online spaces, i keep seeing posts by trans dudes and transmasc nonbinary people who desperately ask for trans inclusive hairdressers in the area because they reliably get a pixie cut every time they explicitly show a picture of a yes-chad haircut as an example, and all the explaining doesn’t help them at all, it goes exactly like in the picture. Apparently it’s super fucking hard to find cooperative hairdressers as a transmasculine person who will just respect your gender instead of trying to feminize you.

        • President_Obama [they/them]@hexbear.net
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          Then you say “I’m not a woman” and point at the barber’s chair (or point at discrimination laws)

          Obviously there’s specifics to this, but sure, let’s do this: if you’re nonbinary, go to an NB friendly barbershop if that’s a possibility. If there are none close to you, go to a popular shop in a LGBT friendly city instead, and explain you’d like a “men’s” haircut. If that’s not a possibility, explain to your local barbershop that you’d like a men’s haircut, and that hairdressers are less experienced with that. If they are unable to, or you feel uncomfortable, go to a hairdresser and explicitly mention you want a men’s haircut, and show a picture, again mention you are comfortable with it being as short as in the pic. If they present something unsatisfactory, say “I’d like you to cut it shorter, please” when they ask whether you’re happy. If you don’t feel comfortable asking for a gnc haircut, then you’d have to do it yourself.

          All avenues exhausted now or did I miss anything?

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      I am trad, but I bob my hair once a year in the spring and let it grow out for the rest of the year. It’s usually back to my shoulders before I get it cut again. I used to do hair donation and I would get hair dressers who were uncomfortable giving me a short cut all the time. Now if I get one who’s uncomfortable I tell the to give me the scissors and I cut my ponytail off myself in front of them. After I do that they know I mean business and get down to giving me the cut I want.