After some recent shit with my family I’ve finally made the difficult decision that I need to cut them off one day and that I’m not going to have a relationship with them going forwards. When I get the chance to change my legal name I’m also going to change my last name too as a way of separation from them all. I’ve already picked a new first and middle name but I really have no idea what to do for the last one. Like last names have histories behind them and a lot of time it has to do with what country or culture you’ve come from so it would be weird of me to pick a last name based in a culture that I’m not from.

Has anyone else gone through this? Do you all have any advice for how to start choosing one?

  • ElectronNumberSeven [she/her]@hexbear.netOP
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    8 months ago

    Lmao my very first thought of what to go with was Marx but that would be way too weird of me to go with lol.

    Idk about picking the last name of someone I know, I don’t really have a role model or anything like that. I look up to my friends but that would be way way to weird to steal one of their last names and I definitely don’t want to do that.

    Thank you for the lists though! I’ll look through them to see if any one of them stands out to me.

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      8 months ago

      I was thinking more historical figure or fictional character (Austen novels are full of Miss Morland, Miss Fairfax, etc) rather than someone you know personally for existing names to adopt. I agree it’d be weird to use one of those unless it was offered to you.

      I’ve known a “Marks”, which you might be able to pass off as coincidence should the similarity to “Marx” arise, at least with people who don’t know you’ve changed your name.