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  • usernamesaredifficul [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    10 months ago

    most of the bad ideas a young boy raised in a non toxic household is going to be exposed to are probably going to come from other boys their age. Shortly followed by the internet and then tv

    providing a space where they can be vulnerable at home is from my childhood experience at least pretty helpful

    • BrezhnevsEyebrows [he/him]@hexbear.net
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      10 months ago

      Very true. I remember when i was a small boy i used to let my mom paint my nails because I thought it was cool. Then at the park one of the other boys sneered “only girls paint their nails” and I never wore nail polish again. But I doubt that behavior like this is innate in children

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        10 months ago

        When I went to pick up a family friend’s son from daycare a couple months ago, some of the boys had nail polish. They weren’t being teased over it either. The kids are all right.

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        10 months ago

        no they learned it from elsewhere in society. What I am saying is that you can’t just remove a boy (or girl) from society and the negative ideas it will teach them. At least not completely

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          I know. Which makes me sad, because I want to protect kids from the harm the patriarchy inflicts on them. Shits just fucked, and like you said a good home environment where they can express themselves is really the best I can do on an individual level

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            10 months ago

            the personal is political. Helping protect just one child from this is helping the grander society shift as well. Like water droplets that cut through stone helping enough individual people have better ideas can help shift the culture overall

      • infuziSporg [e/em/eir]@hexbear.net
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        10 months ago

        In elementary school I remember a Friday when a girl was going around saying “does any BOY want his nails painted?”

        The most gruff boy in the grade accepted, and got one hand pink and one hand purple. Walked around the rest of the afternoon with a very proud smile on his face. In retrospect it was glorious.

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      10 months ago

      As you mentioned the internet, specifically YouTube is really precarious for falling down any number of incredibly brainstormed rabbit holes.

      I feel crazy wondering if the kids dressing up as Disney characters while their parents film are about to launch into a Prager u lecture.

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        10 months ago

        Andrew Tate especially should not have access to kids and it is deeply irresponsible and fucked up to allow a human traficker and groomer access to impressionable children

        and what he’s doing is very much grooming